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Parents restricting my revison.

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11122aa · 05/05/2017 00:07

Are my parents justified in restricting my revision to 10 am to 11.30pm at night. I have important uni exams. I emailed my Uni disability support worker and she defended my parents and said they were justified.

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GretchenFranklin · 05/05/2017 00:11

How old are you if you are at Uni? Why do your parents have a say in your revision time?

someonestolemynick · 05/05/2017 00:13

I remember your previous posts and I agree with your parents here: in order to learn most efficiently you need to allow yourself some rest to process all the information you have taken in. You have 13 hours in which to study.

I am a teacher btw. I would recommend you study no more than 2-3 nights on a uni day and no more than 8 hours on a study leave day. Take frequent short breaks and a break of half an hour about half way through.

someonestolemynick · 05/05/2017 00:15

*2-3 hours....

keeplooking · 05/05/2017 00:15

What times would you think were reasonable?

I imagine most people would think that 13 and a half hours is more than enough time in which to revise, and would also value a good night's sleep as part of exam preparation, but presumably you are an adult, and should be organising your own timetable, however outlandish!

ZilphasHatpin · 05/05/2017 00:16

Yes I think it sounds like they needed to intervene and place some restrictions, you're overdoing it and probably being counter productive.

Bubblesagain · 05/05/2017 00:17

Hey 11122aa, I remember your last posts I hope you had a good birthday Cake
If your getting up early in the morning it probably won't be great to study late into the night as you will need some sleep, but if your wanting to can you explain to your parents why and get them to understand?

catkind · 05/05/2017 00:18

Assume you're an adult if you're at uni? No way should your parents have any right to determine when you are to study. How do they even have the ability to limit you?

It is good advice to limit your study hours though. I'd go for more 8am-10pm max, with good breaks. Specially if any of the exams are in the morning, get used to starting thinking hard earlier in the morning than the earliest exam time. Exam success is down to quality not quantity of study time and sleep is very important to good performance too.

Topseyt · 05/05/2017 00:27

Are you living at home or away? The only way that I can see parents having much influence on the revision schedule of a uni student is if they live at home.

That said, I tend to agree with your parents. However, when I was a student (far too long ago) I kept ridiculous hours and would burn my candle at both ends, as I know my 22 year old uni student DD1 does now.

GardenGeek · 05/05/2017 00:33

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ThatGingerOne · 05/05/2017 00:41

To be fair, I'm at uni too and when I go home my parents have my restricted to the internet after 11:30pm, mainly for the fact that I would stay up and it would keep them awake. No matter how quiet I try to be the tapping of my laptop keys and turning pages in books etc can be heard by them so I respect they need me to be quiet after a certain time.

I think 10-11:30 is plenty of time to revise.

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11122aa · 05/05/2017 14:35

At home. All. My exams are in the morning sadly.

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11122aa · 05/05/2017 14:40

And I can't tell my parents to But out as then my dad turns on me and I know if I push it too far he will one day become violent. And everyone defends them..

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UppityHumpty · 05/05/2017 14:44

I think I remember that you had quite severe MH issues, not sure if you're the same poster, and so I'm inclined to believe that you are being unreasonable here. No exam is worth your mental health.

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11122aa · 05/05/2017 17:13

I won't ever get good mental health if I don't get a good degree.. It's my Only slim Chance of escaping this life. Otherwise I will have to live with my parrents till they die. As I'll never be able to get freedom.

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Fruitcorner123 · 05/05/2017 17:17

Your best chance of getting good exam results is to revise thoroughly for a period of each day but take breaks, eat healthily and have eight hours sleep a night and some down time (that means time in the day when you are not revising) if you are not doing those things you are reducing your chances.

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11122aa · 05/05/2017 19:47

I get distracted too easily sadly. And I don't sleep well. I want help but am not allowed to see a doctor as my parrents refuse to accept I have sleep problems.

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NeverTwerkNaked · 05/05/2017 19:53

You need to do a max 8 hours a day of revision, with breaks.
It is a marathon not a sprint, make sure you get to exam day in a good shape.

I did 9-5 days 5 days a week to revise (and throughout uni), but pick the 8 hours that suit you (within reason). I have two first class degrees so think my 8 hour max worked! Those who revised much longer didn't get better grades!

Preventing you seeing a doctor is abuse and I think you should be seeking support and advice from university - many have an anonymous helpline, you could call that in the first instance?

NeverTwerkNaked · 05/05/2017 19:54

(Ps I have severe PTSD but have still managed to hold down a professional job. The key is working with my GP etc to keep on top of managing it)

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11122aa · 07/05/2017 13:58

Sadly having autisum means no one is likely to employ me. The more physical low paid jobs are not the most suitable but I'm not reliable enough for an office job especially if I only get a 2.2 or third from a middling uni..

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Sittinginthesun · 07/05/2017 14:02

I think you should aim for 8 hours revision a day, but at times that work for you. Lots of breaks, some fresh air, decent food.

Agree that you should be able to see a doctor - can you speak to your tutor?

EggysMom · 07/05/2017 14:06

If you want to revise for longer, get up earlier?

You do mention that your exams are in the morning, so you need to get yourself into a routine that enables you to think/work at your best in the morning period.

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11122aa · 07/05/2017 14:06

Not allowed to get up earlier sadly.

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11122aa · 07/05/2017 14:07

I don't have a tutor and all the staff at the uni all defend my parrents whenever I complain..

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myoriginal3 · 07/05/2017 14:10

Are you the poster whose parents control you such as not giving you your bank card etc.?

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/05/2017 14:11

Not allowed to get up earlier?