I am a secondary school teacher and DH is a nurse (A and E)
A few of the pros and cons of both of our jobs we would agree on:
Nursing
Pros
As he works long days only he works a 3 day week (with an additional short shift once every 4 weeks)
Having worked in the NHS for years he has accrued over 7 weeks holiday per year which (apart from Christmas and Easter) he can take whenever he likes. The result being that he works many days a year less than I do despite teaching being seen as a cushy number re holidays
When he's finished work, he's finished. No work to do at home.
His days off are days off. He never has work to do so can spend them as he wishes.
He works in a fast paced environment which suits him
He feels he is doing something worthwhile
Cons
Long days are tough, busy and exhausting
He has to work 2 weeks of nights every 6 weeks- as he gets older he finds it more and more difficult to make the transition between day and night mode
He finds the emphasis on targets and waiting times means priorities are skewed. There is little time to spend with each patient and very limited time to give emotional support to patients and their families, something he has always felt is hugely important
It can be emotionally difficult dealing with extremely traumatic situations
He always works Christmas Day- as a childless man he is bottom of the list for getting Christmas or school holidays off- pretty hard when your wife is a teacher. It is assumed he'd prefer new year off as childless but he's in his 40s- partying is much less important to him than time spent with family.
Teaching
Pros
Long holidays
I can leave work at 330 and work from home after that
I still genuinely enjoy the teaching aspect of it. Working with teenagers is a (sometimes difficult) privilege which I enjoy immensely
I love my subject (History) and helping others to enjoy it. I am proud of the fact that so many of my past pupils have gone on to study History in university
I work in a very deprived area- what I do is very worthwhile
The relationships and pastoral care in teaching help me feel I am making a real difference to students lives
I am paid more for teaching than my husband is for nursing
Cons
The actual teaching part of the day is exhausting. You are permanently in 'performance mode'. As you get older this becomes more tiring
The enormous amount of paper work means work is never ending. I could literally work 24 hours a day and still feel I haven't done enough
The emphasis on targets, grades and stats means management, government and the inspectorate don't see children any more just numbers. The things that you feel are useful (teaching love of a subject, building confidence, the moment a student 'gets it' helping a student through difficult personal issues, seeing a child with terrible home circumstances smile at their achievement or the knowledge that someone cares for them, supporting a parent who is struggling with a problem with their child) are put to the bottom of the list. The things you think are the key to the job are seen as having no value- that is soul destroying
In my case poor management- the retirement of an inspirational head to be replaced by someone incompetent has led to falling morale. The new head sees stats only and has allowed pastoral structures to deteriorate significantly. In the deprived area in which I teach this has meant increased behavioural problems and little support for pastoral issues such as drugs and mental health. Classroom teachers do what they can but there is little support from above.
The emotional difficulties of worrying about a child- we have many in care or in chaotic homes, many with drugs and mental health issues.
The fact that time off is never time off. There is always work to do at home
The public perception of our job is upsetting. I and my colleagues care deeply for the children in our care. We work ridiculous hours planning, marking etc. Yet the public think we are work shy sloths with fabulous holidays. That can grind you down.
The unpredictability of your day can be both good and bad. You can have everything planned perfectly and it can go very quickly off the rails due to an emergency/ a problem a child is dealing with/ poor behaviour/ deviation from timetable etc
Overall both of us love our jobs but both of us are exhausted both physically and emotionally. That's without having any children of our own. We are looking into working abroad as a way to keep doing what we love without it destroying us.
By all means try to get out of nursing but I don't think things are any better from this side.
Apologies for the essay!