Should you tell the school if you think a member of their team is morally corrupt?

[mumoftwoangels]

A member of staff at my dd1's school has a reputation for being a "loose woman". But during the hols the gossip (i have no evidence) suggests she has over stepped the mark. She is responsible for family liason at my dd1's school, but her latest behaviour suggest her judgment is questionable, what should i do?

she can shag who she likes, it doesn't make her a less effective member of staff does it? As long as you feel safe she is not a peadophile, I would not say anything.

Paedophile i mean, not someone who has a fetish for legumes.

Ordinarily, I'd say that what a teacher does out of hours, provided that it's not illegal, is their business. You seem to be suggesting that there is more to it that just sleeping around but without more info, I'm not sure I can give you an opinion.

The suggestion is that she was caught in a "compremising" situation with her schoolaged daughters boyfriend.

Is he under 16?

how old is the boyfriend? sounds like a horrid thing to do to her daughter but unless the boy is underage I don't think there's anything you can (or should) do.

OK, is he underage? If he is, that's illegal and she should be reported. The person who reports it should be absolutely sure of the facts (preferably the person who saw the deed). It would be terrible if idle gossip were to ruin a person's career and life.

Again, i know rumours cannot be taken as gospel, but the talk is 15. Her dd (who found them) is around that age.

I just feel a little concerned that a women who should be seen as a parental point of contact within the school is being held up a the village bike!

is it pos the gossip is made up by someone who feels agrieved by something that she did as family liason officer

"Schoolaged" can of course mean 18.
The quality of evidence doesn't seem that good to me.

OK, if true, that's illegal. However, I doubt anything could be done unless the boy or his parents make a complaint. Again, I'd advise against repeating what is, atm, unsubstantiated rumour.

Unless there is very good evidence and the boy was underage I think you should leave well alone. Her private life is private and as long as it doesn't actively impact on the way she does her job it is no one's business but her own. Tbh I'd be more concerned about the level of moral corruption present in the gossips than the member of staff. It all sounds pretty nasty to me.

The most important phrase in your post is "I have no evidence". It's all gossip. And until you have reason to believe that it's more than just gossip there is nothing you can do - and indeed nothing you should do.

You could ruin this woman's career if you report her on the basis of nasty gossip.

Why would any sane person risk their job and reputation for a quickie with a 16 year old - her daughters boyfriend at that!!

Sounds like shes pissed someone off and they are spreading gossip.

She could get into alot of trouble because their are rumours about it even if the arnt true.

I didn't really think telling the school was an option. Usually i would ignore idle gossip, but it puts a different slant on things when she is also your daughters classroom asst.

I'm a DHT in a primary and TBH I would be pretty irritated if a parent came in to tell me something like this without proof. However if it was true I'd be pretty irritated if a parent knew but told the Education Authority without letting the school know.

Proof is the key.

I am new the the school situation, my dd1 has only been there a little while. I only know the teacher and 2 asst in her class. Earlier in the year she was part responsible for the class being asked to take revenge and give a "taste of his own medicine" to a child in the class with behavioural problems. Now this! Hope you see understand my concerns.

I would try to talk to the management about 'concerns'. You can't be specific but mention the things that you are unhappy about that you can say happened in the class.

IIf she's not good at her job or approriate for this kind of job I';m sure the management will already know. It's just soooooo hard to do anything about crappy staff.

Is not a case of liking or not liking, infact i hardly know her. I just don't know if i trust her judgement as my experience of it is not that good. Thats going on fact not rumour. This just adds to it.

I suppose my real worry is who do you speak to at the school if you need to about anything if you feel that you have lost confidence in the person you are supposed to deal with?