Should you tell the school if you think a member of their team is morally corrupt?

[mumoftwoangels]

A member of staff at my dd1's school has a reputation for being a "loose woman". But during the hols the gossip (i have no evidence) suggests she has over stepped the mark. She is responsible for family liason at my dd1's school, but her latest behaviour suggest her judgment is questionable, what should i do?

If you have problems with something she's done at the school that has directly affected your daughter then you should contact the school - your child's teacher as the first point of contact, the children's mentor (if you have one) or the head teacher if you get no-where with the teacher.

But for heaven's sake don't mention this gossip - you won't be taken at all seriously if you do. Keep your concerns factual, and preferably keep it to problems which concern your daughter.

Thanks for that WigWamBam. I did speak to the school about the hit back policy and it was removed that day.I wouldn't want anyone to get in to trouble over a complete "misunderstanding" . And like others have pointed out i suppose in her job she does become a bit of a target. I suppose it is just complete worry about nothing. But she does look after my dd1 all day so i can't help it. I've always been a little protective of her.

Even if the gossip is true, it doesn't mean that she's going to be doing anything at all to harm your dd. Of course you're protective of your dd, but in this instance what are you actually trying to protect her from? Surely this isn't something that will affect her teaching, unless she makes a point of telling the children what she (maybe)does in her spare time.

Unless there are other concerns about things that have definitely happened and which definitely concern her teaching (apart from the one which is resolved) I don't think you have anything to worry about.

i Just won't send dh to collect dd! lol

tbh, Id be very careful about acting on this sort of gossip
There used to be a poisonous woman in a village near where I lived, she got rid of the teachers in the local school by spreading talk, and I myself witnessed her getting rid of someone else who had an official role in the community.
It was all done on gossip, with no proof, but she was so convincing that everyone except me and 1 other woman voted to get rid of this man. I have no idea what if anything he actually had done.

Doesnt underage, only exist for girls? boys can shag at any age, as long as its a girl over 16. I thought that teachers get prosecuted because they have a special relationship with their pupils, not because the pupil is under 16? maybe I am wrong.

I always thought the laws on stautory rape applied to both genders... if your right though fistfullofnappies

sounds like gossip doesn't it really?
I was giggling to myself a few weeks ago when my friend told me that her son had come home and told her that "Mr x had asked them all to keep their voices down as he had a mega-hangover". (during the football finals)Some would take that to heart. Most of us - surely?- (especially those of us with kids who never went to bed before 10 during all them matches...!)feel relieved that we're human!!!Kids love that little bit of "human" from teachers aswell.