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Ok final decision - should I move DD to a new school?

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 18:44

DD has had various problems at school (bullying for nearly a year - school only beleiving her when another child tried to protect her..formal compliant to govenors...meeting with LEA, withdrawn complaint on promise of action)

I was told she could not get into the school of her choice without an appeal

They rang tonite - she can have a place

So now I have to decide if it is the right thing to move her..what does anyone think?

Also do you think I could ask to go into the new school for a proper look arround?

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alexsmum · 03/05/2006 18:45

as i have said before.....move her!!!!!!

Norah · 03/05/2006 18:47

Definitely go for a look around - asap.

What does she want to do ?

If the new school is nice I think I'd go for it and let her put the bullying behind her - poor love.

LIZS · 03/05/2006 18:51

Definitely at least visit , and ask what they would plan to integrate her into what is presumably an already established group fo children. If you like it can you arrnage a morning or day this term for her to visit her prospective new class ?

Think if everything looks good then you should give her the chance of a fresh start.

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 18:52

She will be going into y4 (start of middle school) so it will be a new year starting together

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 18:55

I'm going out (with a friend...a very unusual occurance) so I'll pop later to see what people think......thanksxxx

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 19:18

So do I tell current school?

That's she's leaving?
That's she's looking arround another school?

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Blu · 03/05/2006 19:20

Look round it asap - and then if you like it move move move as fast as you can!
Don't tell current school anything at all until it's arranged.

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 19:20

She can't go til Sept

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louise35 · 03/05/2006 19:21

I think you'll find that usually kids of that age are quite welcoming to someone new. I'd probably have a look round the school and if you like what you see and your DD is happy to go then send her there. How old are the kids who've been bullying her, are they older or the same age? Can't believe kids in year 4 of Junior school can be so bloody nasty at their age. Shock Can you imagine what they'll be like when they get to high school. Its best to get away from kids like that, good luck and I hope everything works out for you x

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 19:30

The child bullying her is the same age - rotten little............

I've just fond out one of the hangers on is moving to this school (according to dd) I think I need to check this out

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sunnydelight · 03/05/2006 19:42

If one of the "hangers on" is moving to the same school, I think you should have a word with the new head to try and ensure that they are not in the same class is possible (obviously doesn't work if it's single entry!). The new school might think they were doing your daughter a favour by putting her with someone she already knows. Having had to move one of my kids because of problems at school I really sympathise!

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 19:49

The hanger on is actually a year above - but I am concerned

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edam · 03/05/2006 19:52

Having seen your other threads, and having been bullied at school myself, I'd say move her once you've checked out the other school and established that it's good. Do have a word with the head about the hanger on, though. You'll be asking about their anti-bullying policy and how they actually put it into practice, won't you?

wangle99 · 03/05/2006 19:55

I would do it. In fact I did do it.

Do ask to go and look around the new school, ask questions (especially their bullying policy and don't let them tell you that bullying doesn't happen!)

DD was in an awful state, crying EVERY day, total mistrust of teachers. After moving her she's now happy and doing well at a school which she loves.

Good luck.

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Katymac · 03/05/2006 22:47

Yep - I will look into their bullying policy - but anecdotally they are much better

But Thanks for all the positives - now I just need to talk to the head....now there's a lovely conversation

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Katymac · 04/05/2006 07:04

Feel much more content and settled about it this morning

DD says she will go (as long as she can stay friends with BF)

DH is panicing about getting her there and picking upSmile

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Katymac · 04/05/2006 18:59

Spoke to the head and he was OK - so that's one hurdle over

Apparently there is an open evening on 3rd July and an open day (for DD) on the 4th so we will have a better idea then

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AngelaD · 04/05/2006 19:42

I don't know what you are waiting for, move her.

notasheep · 04/05/2006 19:44

Its that social services person again-move her!
Hope you are ok katymac

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Katymac · 04/05/2006 20:59

We are sort guys - she visits in july - i'm looking for uniform already

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expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 21:00

Move her.

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Katymac · 04/05/2006 21:02

honest expat - she has a place annd will go in sept(i'm choosing uniform?)

I promise

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LIZS · 05/05/2006 09:29

can you really not sneak a visit in before July ? Any fetes or fundraising which is open to general public.

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Katymac · 05/05/2006 09:37

I'll try...that's a good idea

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shimmy21 · 05/05/2006 09:43

You can ask the school to have a look around any day (doesn't have to be an Open Day). It's quite normal. Schools show parents round all the time. You may want to look without dd first and then she'll have her turn in July when it's closer.

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