Also not sure many women miss cleaning being their realm - suspect SAHMs enjoy the luxury of time to devote to children/themselves, but would guess the number of women thrilled to be tied to the kitchen sink is and ever was limited. Though maybe I'm unusual - maybe others enjoy washing up more than I do
But do they? How does anyone know? It seems a lot of research is put into looking at ways ladies (sorry women) may succeed in the workplace. It assumes they all want the cut and thrust and careers. Maybe some do. I think what got left behind in this were the ladies (girls) for whom this may not be a priority.
As you say - many are trying to find that "work/life balance? (yes some men too). I agree there is an economic force here. But is that really a lot of ladies dissatisfied with the workplace? Maybe not you or many MN's (or maybe they wont say for fear of ridicule)
But I wonder if a point is not being missed. I think both Christina Odone and Catherine Hakim have tried to look at this and drawn conclusions that suggest many women may want to be SAHP's. Of course these days women can only be SAHM?s . That is legitimate. You would be surprised how many frown when my DW said she was a homemaker. The whole concept of being a homemaker (housewife) without being a SAHM or unemployed because you cannot find a job seems to have disappeared in Britain.
Most other countries can accept some ladies want this. So as I said, it does seem to be tied to British Feminism rather than any other.
I have been frowned upon as if I make her stay at home. That has never been the case. In fact I was surprised too. Perhaps the only real bust up type arguments I have ever had with DW were over this. I thought (being a feminist type of fellow :) ) that she would want to have something more and would want to use her education and skills in the workplace. She wanted to stay at home. She didn?t want to be a mum, I asked that too. She wanted to make a home. She wanted to cook and clean and do all the things that "old fashioned housewives" did.
I was surprised but I was not going to force her out to work since she was clearly unhappy ( and asking her if a change of job would be better did not solve the problem), so I said as far as I was concerned she could stay at home. But then we had all the side glances from the rest of society! Not just that it seems in Britain there is no concept of a woman being a housewife/homemaker anymore. You either go down the dole office or have children (so you can be a SAHM) or you pay the demands for NI contributions to keep your record up for the state pension. I pay these demands each year.
So I am the breadwinner and she looks after our home and the finances and runs a clean table. Now we have our DS and she is a SAHM and it doesn?t have quite the same impact. But still eyebrows are raised when she says she is a homemaker.
Now we are off the topic, so that has to be that. I know I am a beast who ties my DW to a kitchen sink. That?s where she is now and I am out of her way because I have been hustled into my den.