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I HATE HALF TERM!!!!!!

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pfer · 25/10/2005 22:20

Ok it's Tuesday night, only got 12 more days without a break.......going mad......won't leave me alone.........they are going to break me this time......help me someone help meeeeeeeeee.....................

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magnolia1 · 30/10/2005 11:52

But ggg, you were judgemental when you said 'Why have kids if spending any length of time with them is so unbearable?' To say to someone 'why have kids' is extremely judgemental

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pfer · 30/10/2005 14:42

Magnolia1, I agree it was extremely judgemental, there seems to be a bit of back tracking going on now, even feels a little like an apology doesn't it. Too little too late. People too quick to judge shouldn't expect an 'ok, don't worry about it' should they?

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magnolia1 · 30/10/2005 14:58

Absoloutely, But to be honest it doesn't matter what some people say!! Having a stressful half term does not mean you shouldn't have kids and as long as YOU know that it's all that matters

spidermama · 30/10/2005 15:06

I don't think ggg's post was so outrageous. Indeed, I think she has a point.

She didn't say you 'shouldn't have kids' did she? I believe she said, 'why have kids'.

I get fed up with the culture of negativity which sees mums in the playground dreading holidays and I do think to myself 'Why did they have kids? They seem to be hating it so much'.

I really do struggle to understand this mentality, and yet I'm in the minority.

I don't think ggg should need to apologise for giving an alterantive view. There are plenty of others, as can be seen by this thread, who are most passionate about their hatred of holidays.

It's called robust debate isn't it?

Gobbledispook · 30/10/2005 15:10

Yes, and if anyone asks a working mother 'why have kids?' it doesn't go down a storm there either.

Some of you really must have the most angelic kids ever heard of - don't you ever have a stressful day?

Mytwopenceworth · 30/10/2005 15:18

i hate the holidays too, cos my kids get bored and start beating the crap out of each other, and tbh, with 2 asd kids, i appreciate the school hours!!

but i also agree with ggg's right to ask the question she did. why should she be flamed for simply asking a very ligitimate question? my answer to her question would be that for me it is in the balancing. i love and want my kids very much and love spending time with them, but also love the hours they are at school to have quiet and to repair the damage in the house! the screaming and fighting over holidays wears you down! it's probably a very selfish way to feel cos i am focusing on how I feel, rather on the kids, but we are all only human! i like packing my kids off to school and sitting with a cup of coffee that doesnt get spilled over my lap when i get headbutted! no matter how much we all love our kids, it is a very rare parent indeed who doesnt appreciate a bit of silence!

TinyGang · 30/10/2005 15:40

My reply, not a 'flame' is..

I appreciate the silence too when I can get it.

Over the years I've often had 3 and now two pre-school age children at home all the time. Of course I love them to bits. 'Unbearable' is not what I mean if I say I could use a break or find the holidays more than I can manage at times. It just means I'm worn out really.

I have a friend (sahm) with one child who has no idea what I'm on about, but she has many more oppotunities than me to 'catch her breath' iyswim.

Gobbledispook · 30/10/2005 16:10

Good post mtpw.

But next time I ask why mothers go out to work because they just couldn't bear to be at home all day - lets see how it goes when I ask them why they bothered having their children hey?

Gobbledispook · 30/10/2005 16:11

ANd with that I think I need do a great big PARP!

I don't even hate the holidays!

magnolia1 · 30/10/2005 16:31

But this isn't about being a working mum or a stay at home mum. This is about some mums finding half term a bit stressful and coming on here for a friendly ear which pfer didn't get
Instead she got 'why have kids' thrown at her!!

Gobbledispook · 30/10/2005 17:45

I know!!! That's why I'm defending her! What I'm saying is, some people seem to think it's OK to say 'why have them' to this poster but you'd be seriously flamed if you said that to a working mother. That's the point I'm making!

Right, that's my last word!

puff · 30/10/2005 18:05

Working from home with kids around (especially young ones who don't understand "now go and play nicely" ) is hard going. Dh mainly works from home and he finds it tough, even though I'm here looking after ours!

Octobernow · 30/10/2005 18:18

I'm not coming down on either side of the main question - but it is a pointless question. No-one knows what being with their children is like until they have already had them. And if you decide you do hate it, what do you do?

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pfer · 30/10/2005 18:55

Gobbledispook & Magnolia1 I appreciate the support. At least there are some mums out there who understand where I'm coming from.

My kiddiwinks are on the whole fantastic. But like everyone else I have my stressy times when I need to let off steam and, as I can't do that at home, I chose mumsnet, that's why it's here isn't it?

Anyway, I'd not change my situation for the world, except maybe a few more hours in the day so I can fit everything in. Just be nice if there were more people out there who could find it in themselves to TRY & be a little more tolerant of SAHM / WOHM 's failings as human beings - we should all have been sterilised at birth! .

Lets just say Gobbledispook, Magnolia1 and myself are perfect mums ...........

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Lonelymum · 30/10/2005 18:59

Oi I was supportive too!

Enid · 30/10/2005 19:02

mine's over now. It was bloody hard work - but lessons learned...next time not tooo many playdates, MAKE dh take a day off work and, most importantly, DO NOT organise loads of kids workshops at work so I have to be at work while the kids are at home . Badly organised on my part. Still it was lush not having to make packed lunches and get uniform sorted.

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pfer · 30/10/2005 19:11

Lonelymum - you're perfect too

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Beetroot · 30/10/2005 19:13

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firestorm · 30/10/2005 19:27

my kids go back tomorrow i love every minute of my time with them (even if they are beating the crap out of eachother most of the time) i certainly dont enjoy having to leave the house by 745am for my current 40 minute school run
roll on my house move

Gobbledispook · 30/10/2005 19:33

Oh Enid - I know, just sorted out all the boys' clothes into little piles for speedy dressing tomorrow. Still got lunch boxes to make up. A right PITA knowing I have to be showered and dressed by 7am. I've not been hitting the shower before 10.30am this week!

roisin · 30/10/2005 19:35

I know exactly what you mean GDG. I've just been round setting the alarm clocks, and putting out piles of clothes. We've had lovely lazy mornings, and I'm not looking forward to tomorrow.

magnolia1 · 30/10/2005 22:59

Yes we are perfect mums. All of us!! we all cope in different ways tahts all

Gobbledispook · 31/10/2005 09:40

Ah well, at least it's only 9.30 and we are all dressed, ds1 is safely at school, house is tidy, washing is on...

Think I might actually get some breakfast now!

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