Hi there, I know I'm really late in replying to this, but I wondered if I might be able to help. I am a Disability Coordinator with specific (and sole) responsibility for students with autism spectrum conditions at a major Russell Group uni. I support students with ASCs throughout their university careers, from pre-application, application, transition, undergrad and postgrad.
The issue of disclosure is always a sensitive one, but I would always encourage a person with an ASC to disclose on their UCAS form. This is because the University is then required to make reasonable adjustments to the admissions process for that student, if required. This will depend on the admissions process for that course at that uni, but might include alternatives to interviews etc. This may also include lowering the offer requirement, in some cases. We start working with students at the point of disclosure, regardless of whether they actually come to our university.
Some students choose not to disclose at the Admissions stage, in which case it's really important to disclose as soon as they have achieved their offer - perhaps between A-Levels and starting at uni. Some universities offer transition support (I do this with student) which is a way of supporting the move from school education to uni. Things like early induction, talking to the academic department in advance, arranging orientation sessions, sorting out accommodation in advance etc. It usually makes for a much, much smoother start to uni. Support for students with ASCs needs to be in place from day one, or you risk the first term going wrong, which can in turn lead to the first year being more difficult than it needs to be.
Universities are required to make reasonable adjustments, as I said above, and this relates to all aspects of a student's academic study, their accommodation, their access to all facilities etc. But unis can't do this unless they know about a student's ASC.
The adjustments we make are totally individual to each student, so I could spend all day writing a list. I can give you more details on these if you would like them. When looking at universities, you might like to ask them the following:
Do they follow the NADP Template for supporting students with autism spectrum conditions?
Do they offering mentoring? (a key type of support for students with ASCs)
Do they offer strategy support?
Do they have a named disability coordinator for students with ASCs?
Do they do transition work (school to uni, and uni to employment)?
Are people in Halls trained in supporting people with ASCs?
Is their flexibility with accommodation, such as staying in the same Halls all the way through university, if that's appropriate?
Do they work with the NAS?
Your son will need to apply for Disabled Students Allowances in order to claim funding for much of the support offered at uni. This requires filling in a form, then having an Assessment of Need (pref at an Assessment Centre based at the uni he is attending)which identifies the support required. Ideally, this should be done before the student comes to uni, so support is in place from day one. Freshers Week is almost the most difficult week of a student's entire university career, so additional support is needed at this time - no good if the support isn't even in place. Most Unis should be able to advise on the DSA application process.
Have you seen this website: www.users.dircon.co.uk/~cns/
It might answer some of your son's questions.
HTH, happy to give you more info offline.