Here we go!!

[Noki]

I’m an egg donor. Sorry, just excited, and not talking to too many people IRL so just wanted to blurt it out somewhere! First injection of Ovaleap just taken! It’s getting really real Scan on Tuesday and expecting egg collection start of November.

Are you doing this anonymously OP or for a family member or friend?

I think it’s called altruistic, the donation. No idea who the recipients are, just that it’s two families. It’s been seeing friends struggle with fertility that’s given me the nudge to do something I’ve often wondered about.

Such a wonderful selfless thing for you to do. Thank you from someone who needs to use an egg donor. Hope all goes well for you x

Do you have children or want children in the future?

I hope all goes well for you Donimo! X

OHJ, I don’t have DCs and have always suspected that I wouldn’t want any. I have SDCs, who I’ve been with since they were early primary and are now teens. I’m absolutely not their mother, but I’ve loved them, helped raise them and feel quite… complete. I know that things can change, but right now, I don’t believe that I will want any DCs of my own.

Fab thing to do! I was too old by the time I looked into it but I would have loved to do that. Good luck xx

@Noki this is a lovely thing for you to do.

Just an FYI that oh holy Jesus is known to always be watching donor and surrogacy based threads to put people off being a donor/using donor/surrogacy. If you do a quick look you will see many many posts form him/her so if is not worth it to engage.

That's a bold accusation @CFarraigeC I'm "not known to watch" this board unless there's something you're not telling me, but yes I do create and contribute to many surrogacy related threads as it is an interested of mine. I also read but don't post on a bunch of topics, there are no community guidelines preventing me from doing this is there? This isn't related to surrogacy though it is, at least not as far as we know from the OP.

If you do a quick look you will see many many posts form him/her so if is not worth it to engage.

Crack on, I welcome advanced searches on my account and no-one is under any obligation to 'engage' but you might find some information about donated gametes and other related threads I've posted on and I'm sure you'd find regular, like minded, posters commenting on the same sort of issues. I've learnt a lot from them myself.

I asked the OP if she had children as those children might want to know their half siblings and any children resulting from her eggs might want to know her and any children she has or might have in the future. I think it's important to think long term before making life changing decisions and this applies to many different areas of life.

I'm sure nothing I say makes the slightest difference to anyone who has already made up their mind, I'm not that important I'm sure!

That's really rude, and unnecessary, CFarraigC. You have absolutely no idea of my history or circumstances.

@ArabellaScott I don’t see what relevance your history is. If you are against egg donation and surrogacy then as I listed there are multiple avenues you can pursue in real life to try do something about this. You don’t need to be here watching and waiting for posters to educate And I am not specifically talking about you - I mean the group of posters who are always watching and commenting here and on surrogacy boards such as oh holy Jesus. Those boards are intended for support.

Asking questions isn't me trying to educate anyone.

I find all of you who watch those boards like a hawk and then jump on like evangelical Christians

What's wrong with Christians? I'm not one but someone who disagrees with surrogacy doesn't need to do so based in religious grounds, and as I'm not religious and don't follow a religion you will find that all my posts relate to centring the child and the women.

I have no idea who this 'recurrent group' is but if there is one maybe I could join?

Sorry OP, this obviously isn't the sort of thread you intended.

OP as someone with a gorgeous 2 year old DS from donor eggs, thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing this. I always hoped my donor was thanked in a similar anonymous fashion as well

Hi Op, I'd be really interested to hear about your experience. My husband is becoming a sperm donor, so I have done a lot of thinking about the concept in general, so logically I could be an egg donor too, it's just not so quick and easy

@ButtonMooooon

OP as someone with a gorgeous 2 year old DS from donor eggs, thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing this. I always hoped my donor was thanked in a similar anonymous fashion as well

Congrats on your lovely DS

Fair play OP I think you’re amazing! Hope you’re feeling ok on the injections.

@OhHolyJesus now the faux naivety 😂

Interesting @CFarraigeC
Your first post but you must have been lurking a long time to have such extensive knowledge of other poster's posting history.

These boards are discussion boards and as far as I know anyone can post and there is no requirement simply to be a cheerleader.

Other readers may prefer to see a more balanced discussion and for those who have not researched the topic much it may be useful to have the chance to learn more from other sources, particularly if they are considering doing this.

Here is an account from a woman who was a three time egg donor and discusses her experience here.

stopsurrogacynowuk.org/2021/08/20/egg-donation-and-surrogacy-guest-post-from-kat-howard-radfem_kath-short-read/

Oh what a coincidence it’s another member of the group who just happened to come across this thread…, what a coincidence.

Thanks so much for watching, waiting and swooping in from your pedestal to educate us ignorant uninformed infertile. Praise be!

@MumsnetHQ do you have anything to say on this? You must have noticed by now the strong pattern of a group of posters watching these boards and bombarding anyone who posts here or on surrogacy with their views which are always negative.

What is the actual reason for having the surrogacy and donor conception boards? Is it for discussion of the morals of donor conception and surrogacy and to educate those who are in favour of donor conception / surrogacy about how awful it is?

Or are they supposed to be places where women who are suffering from infertility or those who want to help them to come together for support and information?

It’s so unfair that there is so little place for infertile women to talk to others in the same situation and when one is created it’s Hijacked by this group of posters.

This thread is in Active @CFarraigeC it comes up when you scroll. I'm also getting notifications when you tag me so obviously I'm reading your posts.

You don't have a long posting history as PP pointed out so I wonder if you have named changed in order to target me and make accusations about me having a religion/religious position and being part of some secret group that 'watches' this board.

I rarely post on this board, my posting history demonstrates that. I don't name change either (too lazy) so all my posts can be found, mostly on the feminists boards as it happens.

Everything on Mumsnet is open to the public, as various Daily Mail article prove, and anyone can comment, not everyone has to be in agreement and no one is attacking the OP.

@OhHolyJesus if you read what I actually wrote I said like evangelical Christians. You know the Americans who go around college campuses preaching and trying to convert students who are not interested in being converted and self appointing themselves to do so?

I have a posting history here on the infertility boards under different names as I’m sure mumsnet can see. I name change when I want.

It is quite clear there are several posters who consistently post on the donor conception and surrogacy boards of which you are one of them. Nothing secret about it it’s obvious.

It’s interesting that me saying I disagree with what you post and your views is interpreted by you as sinister and me name changing specifically to target you yet you constantly posting on boards about donor conception and Surrogacy especially if anyone dares say they are considering or are in favour of it (especially surrogacy god help anyone who dares say that) it is totally fine and not targeting those women at all.

I won’t be engaging any further. I am just upset to see this constant bombardment of women who are already going through so much and are trying to find a space where people might understand and then trying to put off someone who has made their own informed choice to be an egg donor which lets be honest is why you posted on this thread. No other reason.

Apologies @Noki