Ttc through a sperm donor

[ANNON233]

Hi not really had much luck on other webchat pages.
Has anyone conceived through a donor can use tell me what it was like?

I've been messed around quite a few times but found a genuine donor that is helping me this month just getting nervous by the days go by leading up to it now.
How many trys did it take till you fallen pregnant? I'm going to use the ai method so I know it will probably take a while.

Anyone?

Hey, this was my first cycle using a donor. I found finding a nice donor was hard- there's so many guys out there trying to take advantage. If you've found a good one then that's amazing.

Meeting him was really scary. I was scared he wouldn't be as nice as he seemed, but he was and we chatted a little first then he went and did his thing and then left and I used a syringe. It was really easy. I'm 9dpo and have a couple of faint positives today, so fingers crossed it's a sticky bean and it's worked first time.

I also have a daughter who was conceived via AI. My ex had issues so we ended up giving up on sex. Once we switched to AI it only took two or three months. And my ex had a low sperm count.

Do you have a plan for meeting your donor? Do you have syringes and pots and things? I also used a ferti lily cup I got from boots which is supposed to help keep the sperm up in the right place.

I’ve just fallen pregnant using a donor 1st time, however I had 2 years of heartbreak before that with a different donor.
Me and my wife decided it just wasn’t working and found a new donor and can’t believe it worked first time.

Congrats @Fruitloops34

Can I ask where you both found your donors? I’m happy to chat in PM if anyone would rather.

Wow, so glad I've come across this. I'm due to meet my donor in just over a weeks time....I'm really nervous! Hate meeting new people and I'm really nervous that it's going to be awkward.

Anyway...sorry I can't actually give any pointers or tips ...planning on just using a sample pot and syringe

@Newchapter2020 that’s all we used however there was a person on eBay selling what was a calpol syringe but with an extended plastic bit on the end and that’s what worked for us. I feel it made sure the wee guys got all the way up to cervix. Might be worth having a look for.

That’s so exciting @Newchapter2020 !

How did you choose your donor?

@BlueSlice it's taken me a long time to get to this position. I was trying to work out whether to go through a clinic...and then I heard of facebook sites where you can find sperm donors. There's plenty of creeps! (Bit like dating sites!!)
Anyway, when I was looking for a donor, this one messaged me and we've been talking since May! So nervous though as we haven't met and I hate meeting new people

He seems like a nice person, brown hair, brown eyes, 5ft 10 so not the tallest but I'm only 5ft 4

I’m trying to work out whether to go through a clinic or find a private donor, it’s such a tough decision! Could you PM me the Facebook group?

I know what you mean about meeting knew people. Will you have anyone else there with you when you meet him?

@Fruitloops34 I’m sorry you had such a tough two years with your previous donor by the way

@BlueSlice

Hey sorry for late replies I'm not really sure how to private message so you can to me and I'll find a way to reply back? But I've found mine also on a group I've been messed around loads tho but this one for this month seems genuine enough and seemed to help quite a few so not really worried problems on his side it's just problems on my side I've been tracking for ages and its going over my head now getting confused with alot. I've found this fertility supplement that seems to have high reviews on where people been trying for years and they fallen first month using them? It's called procieve I've ordered some hoping they come in time to start taking and seeing if they will help me

Yes my donor will be supplying the pots and syringes which is helpful and we been speaking for a while but hes just coming to drop it so will be a quick as possible due to all this virus he doesn't want to risk either do I

I found my donor on coparents.com. There's people wanting co-parenting, but also quite a few just looking to donate and have no contact. There's the standard level of creeps. You just have to be firm about where your boundaries are. Sex is definitely not the only way to get pregnant.

I was ridiculously nervous meeting him. I didn't know what to say. It's like a first date without the alcohol to calm your nerves. If you don't like anything about him or the situation just leave. You don't have to use any sperm they give you unless you're completely happy with everything.

I thought about the clinic option but it was just so expensive. You know so little about the donors too. They could easily hide weirdness in a written statement. I liked being able to chat directly to my donor and being able to see in person that he's nice. The only thing he's asked for is an annual update. We've got a written agreement, which I know isn't legally binding, but it's good to know where we both stand about everything.

Yeah the clinic route seems very expensive.

Did you find out if your donor had already donated to anyone else successfully first? Or whether they had plans to continue being a donor?

@blueslice not sure who you are talking to but the donor that is helping me this month has on his Facebook page that hes helped other woman he shows pictures only if the parents want them to be shared by him 🙂 so found that out straight away. I'm only paying travel expenses ect what we agreed on. I'm getting nervous as the days go by seeing him. I'm only doing home insemination he doesnt do any other method which I liked about him 😂. A donor I did meet last year we agreed ai only but when he got here wanted sex but I refused so that kind of put me off but this one seems really genuine

That’s awful @ANNON233 The fact I’ll have to deal with creeps is really putting me off finding a donor to be honest. Using a sperm bank will obviously cost a lot but at least I won’t have to put up with that.

@blueslice can you find a way of messaging me? Atall not sure how you do it but will message about some donors. I'm hoping this one is genuine but he really seems it at the moment I'm waiting nearer the time when I will ovulate to let him know as going to do it twice so maybe a leave a day between each. Just my period came early so messed me up x

@blueslice finally managed to message you

I always asked potential donors about other children he has. It's good to know he's fertile. I also think if they've done it a few times before they're less likely to get emotional and change their mind about contact etc. If all goes well with my little bean it will be my donors 8th child. He plans to stop at 10 families because that's the limit they put on donors through clinics.

Thanks so much for your message @ANNON233 I’ve replied.

@singleandttc yes that makes sense.

My donor has got to travel to me as my fertile time is now during the week for this attempt. So I'm getting one donation in the evening and another one in the morning. Will be good to keep chatting! I'm currently on two WhatsApp groups but I'm not sure I fully fit in with my current method. One group is through a facebook single mums by choice but most of them already have a child. The other group I joing through the donor conception network, but they all seem to be going through the clinic route, with iui or ivf. @ANNON233 when are you getting your donation? Mine is the 22nd and 23rd ...only a week to go!

@BlueSlice definitely understand about being put off by going the known donor route. I've been looking into this for two years now, and I've been flitting between clinic or known donor. At one point I had frozen sperm on order, when you could have it delivered to your address. I have also spent time looking into local clinics.

I have in the past been massively let down by a donor where he crossed the line and I saw a part of him that I did not want to know, so I thought the clinic route was for me. But then I started talking to my donor, I know enough of him but not too much! For now I'm going to try this route, I've had basic fertility tests so I think I'm okay, I guess time will tell. Although if my current donor let's me down I may re think it lol.

@Newchapter2020 I will message you if its okay