I’m looking for some advice regarding contact arrangements with my children’s dad.
We’re no longer together and I have the children full time. I want them to have a relationship with their dad, but I’m really struggling to manage things safely and consistently.
He wants to take them to his mum’s house, but she hasn’t seen them in around 2 years and hasn’t even met our youngest. There are also people there that I’m not comfortable with from a safeguarding point of view. Both of his brothers have been prison for rape and one of them are not allowed around children.
I’ve offered for him to see the children in safe places like the park or agreed locations, but he refuses and says I’m being controlling.
There have also been incidents where he couldn’t cope having them for agreed times and returned them early, and one situation where he entered my home without permission when I wasn’t there.
I’m not trying to stop contact at all, I just want it to be safe, structured, and consistent for the children.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Would you recommend getting a formal arrangement in place or going through a solicitor?
Any advice would really help. Thank you.
we have 4 children all under the ages of 9,
he left me.. out the blue.. I didn’t find out he’s been cheating on me for the past 7 months.
I offered him my car my house. Everything. He was supposed to have the children 10-4 Saturday and he phoned me saying he can’t cope… I was out so he broke into my house. Any sending messages saying his leaving the children alone. A