How do I manage the practicalities of having abusive DH removed from the house?

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Be gentle with me, please. For various reasons he has to be the one to leave. It won’t be pretty and will almost certainly involve police. I will need to make sure the children are out of the way. He has never been physically abusive but I wouldn’t put it past him in that situation. I’ll be speaking to Women’s Aid for the first time this afternoon and seeing a solicitor next week. House is not owned by either of us, he has no financial claim on it. I’m a strong professional woman in the rest of my life so can manage the practicalities, but not him. And yes, I’m frightened of him.

If he's not arrested he can't be removed. There is no 24 hour anything. Police can't remove someone from their home for any length of time unless they arrest them.

Really sorry that happened to you, and so glad you did get him out though. And hopefully had some support to deal with what he did.

You are so right, once out that’s it. And with things like picking their property up, for it to be dropped by someone, or only collected with someone there, even better the police.

I said this to a friend whose idea was to take his stuff down to him when he turned up, it was her flat he was never on the tenancy. And I said no don’t do that you’ll end up caving in, or he might do something, although he was crafty not someone who would do things where there were eyes.

They can. They removed my best friends ex after she called the police because they got in to an altercation. He was allowed back after 24 hours

Not yet, I’ve been trying to resolve it amicably but it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen.

I think in your shoes, I'd get the locks changed when he was out. Put his belongings outside. When he comes back and kicks off. I'd get him lifted and taken away by police who will tell him to stay away.

It's not your problem if he has nowhere to go.