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Can I close a child maintenance claim without notifying the other parent?

35 replies

TakisBlueHeat · 23/03/2026 11:35

Does anyone know if you close a child maintenance claim is there a way to do it without it notifying the other parent? (I’m the receiving parent) can I close it without him being informed?

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Holdmybeermoment · 23/03/2026 15:37

No. They’ll write to him to let him know that no more payments are due. Obviously.

If he missed the letter or doesn’t check his online portal then he’d still notice when he didn’t get a new calculation at the start of your next claiming year.

IkeaMeatballGravy · 23/03/2026 15:40

Why do you want to close it? If you are receiving payments but you don't need them, put the money in a savings account.

TakisBlueHeat · 23/03/2026 15:50

I don’t want to put the money into savings, I guess theres a chance he may not open the letter.

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sparepantsandtoothbrush · 23/03/2026 20:49

Why would you want to?

MrsMoastyToasty · 23/03/2026 20:53

Why would you stop it? It's money that benefits your DC- to clothe them, to keep them fed, to keep them warm, to keep them shod, to develop their interests and so on...

TakisBlueHeat · 23/03/2026 21:03

Oh yes rhe £1.75 a week really contributes to all of that..
i just want to know if he would be notified

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LovesLabradors · 23/03/2026 21:59

Why don't you want him to know OP?
£1.75 a week is a complete insult... assume he's on benefits?

BookArt55 · 24/03/2026 20:06

See i completely agree that the £1.75 is a complete insult.
But I would definitely keep taking it and just putting it into a separate account. Because the moment you stop.claiming he will go and get a proper job... so out of spite I'd take every penny!
Yes, he will be notified on his log in, ans will receive an email or text about there being a new message.

Theunamedcat · 24/03/2026 20:08

He will have to get a job eventually took my ex about 5 years ish but he got a job in the end

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:12

BookArt55 · 24/03/2026 20:06

See i completely agree that the £1.75 is a complete insult.
But I would definitely keep taking it and just putting it into a separate account. Because the moment you stop.claiming he will go and get a proper job... so out of spite I'd take every penny!
Yes, he will be notified on his log in, ans will receive an email or text about there being a new message.

No he won’t it’s been 10 years

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TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:12

Theunamedcat · 24/03/2026 20:08

He will have to get a job eventually took my ex about 5 years ish but he got a job in the end

No he won’t I thought the same but it’s been 10 years so won’t hold my breath

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LovesLabradors · 24/03/2026 20:21

£1.75 a week for 10 years is £910 - so if you put it in a savings account for your DC then they have a nice windfall at 18?

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:24

Well it wouldn’t as it would need to be divided by them.

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TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:24

LovesLabradors · 23/03/2026 21:59

Why don't you want him to know OP?
£1.75 a week is a complete insult... assume he's on benefits?

Because I don’t want to do anything that might cause him to contact us

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/03/2026 20:25

Yes it will notify him. Why do you care?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/03/2026 20:25

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:24

Because I don’t want to do anything that might cause him to contact us

Then why make a fuss of cancelling the money?

JustAnotherWhinger · 24/03/2026 20:29

If he’s paying £1.75 a week rather then £7 then he probably has another CMS claim so he may be notified that his assessment for that claim has changed.

tbh if you don’t want to risk him noticing anything or getting in touch then your best bet is just to ignore the £1.75 coming in. If it annoys you seeing it maybe have it paid into a random account and just don’t ever look at it?

Theunamedcat · 24/03/2026 20:29

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:24

Because I don’t want to do anything that might cause him to contact us

Leave things as they are then if you stop it he might contact you or worse them

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:33

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:24

Because I don’t want to do anything that might cause him to contact us

Because I don’t want him to contact me

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TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:42

Because I want to cut all ties, he doesn’t see our children or have any contact with them so I want nothing from him.

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TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 24/03/2026 20:44

Why does he pay so little? Isn't it £7 per week if the NRP is on benefits?

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 24/03/2026 20:46

And FWIW my ex somehow convinced the CMS he couldn't afford anything despite his business being openly available to view inn Facebook. I still didn't close the claim just in case. And if he ever tried to claim that I didn't let him pay then I can prove the opposite.

JustAnotherWhinger · 24/03/2026 20:46

TakisBlueHeat · 24/03/2026 20:42

Because I want to cut all ties, he doesn’t see our children or have any contact with them so I want nothing from him.

I get that totally, but he will be notified, there is no way round that, so only you can decide if it’s worth the risk

JustAnotherWhinger · 24/03/2026 20:47

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 24/03/2026 20:44

Why does he pay so little? Isn't it £7 per week if the NRP is on benefits?

He either has other CMS claims so the money is split, or priority debt (CMS is behind a load of other things in terms of priority legally) being taken from his benefits and that is all that is left.

Sowhat1976 · 24/03/2026 20:52

Hr doesn't see.your kids. He doesn't contact your kids. He sends £7 a month. Just leave it as it is. Stopping CM is more about you than him. It will be counter intuitive. It will provoke contact which you claim not to want. Just go about your business and meave the deadbeat where he is. Insignificant.

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