Co-parenting-Doctors/dentist appointments

[Marielou101]

I want some dads honest opinions on this and also women who may have similar experiences

me and my daughters dad may not be friends but we co parent healthily I would say. He’s a great dad however he’s made it clear on multiple occasions that doctors appointments he will attend but dentist he will not as it’s not worth taking the time out of work. We have both coming up soon they are 4 weeks apart from one another and he’s said he will happily take the time for doctors but the dentist he doesn’t need to be present, keep in mind the gp surgery and dentist are round the corner from one another

my mind is boggled by this what is the difference surely they are seen on the same level, I am happy to attend and take her to both but I also work full time the same hours if not longer so I can’t understand or see why you would attend one over the other

ive never in my life had both parents take me a child to a medical appointment or dentist appointment. so i would never expect nothing parents to be there unless it was problematic or serious or an ongoing issue not being properly addressed by the gp or dentist.

seems a waste for you both to take dc. Take turn about?

right enough, once my grandfather came with my mum and me when i was to get a tooth out as i was getting gas and would be groggy and my mums back was playing up so she couldn’t hold me up so grandpa came.

I can't see what you don't understand about the difference between doctors and dentists.
Surely it's obvious that usually one is more important than the other.
You sound as if you are being difficult by pretending not to understand the distinction.

The point is he's only arsed with the important stuff and is happy to co parent when it's important but will leave the rest for OP. She's said she's happy to alternate both but he only wants the bits that are important.

Why is it left to you to book doctors and dentist appointments? Is he incapable of doing so? You are not his secretary to arrange appointments and then expected to inform him of them so he can then decide if he fancies attending them.

I would agree that the doctor is more important than the dentist but I also think it’s super weird he’s tagging along to appointments if you are taking them anyway, seems a bit unnecessary.