I’m a horrid ex wife because

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Inspired by a similar thread on the step parenting board.

I’m a horrible exw because:

I expected my now exh to do his fair share in the house and maximise his income. Apparently because I didn’t put up with it I must be having an affair
I expect my exh to pay some child maintenance
I refuse to buy clothes for the kids to stay at my exh’s flat as well as my own house, particularly in light of the above
I don’t think it’s right to leave a 4yo home alone
I FORCED my exh to buy a changing mat for his place as we had a child in nappies at the time

Your turn 🥳

Not me but when my mum finally left my dad for his drinking he used to say she was keeping his kids from him. My older siblings (some of who aren’t my mums bio kids) didn’t want to see him and I wasn’t allowed to see him because he’d got so drunk he’d left me in the pub asleep on some chairs. He used to go into the pub and slag her off and pretty much everyone took her side (which for a council estate pub is pretty rare for them to take the woman’s side).

He’s sober now and him and my mum actually get on fine, sometimes they actually get on well. It’s strange to look back now because he relentlessly painted her as a horrible ex wife but everyone around him knew he was the problem.

Another horrible thing.
I'm so mean that i won't take the birthday presents he buys away from the DC.

He doesn't see having toys at his house as a need, so will only buy them stuff for birthdays/Christmas. He also doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy by giving them 'gifts' they can't take home and will only see every fee weeks, so he trys to send them home with 'gifts' that I'm expected to take off them and return to him.

Ewww he ran off with a teenager who was legally still a child;I’m getting a word for a man like your ex……

good riddance @AngelinaFibres you had a lucky escape

not me but my friends ex

she was a horrible ex wife because she wanted maintenance for their 3 children,he spent nearly 3 years giving CMS the runaround so they eventually went down the deductions directly from wages route.He sent my friend a letter through the post begging her to drop the maintenance claim as and I quote “you and (insert friends partner’s name)surely earn enough between you not to need anything from me.

Oh the list is endless (he cheated and left for OW to be clear) but one of my favourites was a spreadsheet of my weekly Aldi shop that I tried to keep to £50 for me and two kids because I was broke and a carer for our disabled youngest. This was described as “excessive expenditure”. Give me strength 🙄

I got a tattoo.

Obviously it came out of the child maintenance and not my wages because it was booked for the day his money hit the account.

I expected him to be truthful
I expected him to show up at
home on week nights rather than go out drinking (and the rest)
I expected him to maintain a decent standard of personal hygiene
I objected to the house being cold and dark (we weren’t short of money)
I didn’t want a bald fanny
I refused to have anal sex
I didn’t forgive his several affairs
What an unreasonable person I am, eh??

@AngelinaFibres I need a What the actual Fuck buttton!

It’s a different think every few months, counting down the days until our DC is 18.

Because I expected him to agree with me in our discussion with teen DC re living arrangements, after we'd discussed them separately before talking to DC, and I'd texted the key points to him to confirm so we'd present a united front. Rather than go apeshit and accuse me of making it all up, then refuse to discuss it.

Because I didn't just accept that he'd moved on, after a lengthy emotional affair and immediately officially taking up with OW, and just carry on as we were except for being in a relationship, with friendly outings with DC & holidays and family occasions and same friends etc..

And while with him I was awful because I didn't want to have sex with someone who had no interest in anything I said, did or wanted, and was mostly dismissive of me or sulked. I used to hide in the bathroom especially on Friday nights (he arbitrarily decided that that was the weekly sex night), waiting for him to go to sleep. Shudder

Apparently I spend the maintenance money paying extra off my mortgage. This is absolutely definitely his maintenance money being misused and nothing to do with my full time career salary 🙄

Additionally I am manipulating the system to make him pay more because I won't allow more contact. I've said he can have more if he actually parents and takes kids to their activities but that's not acceptable to him.

Oh and I am unreasonable to refuse to let his wife drive my kids while she is uninsured and insist on proof she's been added to the insurance after I found out it had happened again. He married someone so special the law doesn't apply to her 👀

I am so profligate that I dyed my hair (box dye). He literally put this (as a question ‘does she dye her hair?’ and lots of other trivial stuff in for the financial hearing, to ‘prove’ how much money I ‘wasted’ He was a multi millionaire who laundered and hid money).
Luckily the judge threw out most of his claims and literally said ‘I’ve seen some daft questions in my time, but these take the biscuit’.

Because I didn’t want do all the housework, cooking, cleaning, childcare, have sex more, give him more attention, help him with his depression, as well as work full time and pay half the bills apparently I’m perimenopausal and should get help from the GP. Also I should get counselling. Now separated and free 🎉

My ex spotted me buying a cheap lip gloss in superdrug

I'd saved up for weeks and it was on offer so I treated myself-the first thing id bought myself in months

He told everyone id 'spend his money on make up and he already paid for his kids as he paid for my benefits' (tax credits)

He couldn't afford to pay for his own kids but could afford to go on his 5* star holidays 3 times a year

The fact I pulled miracles out of my arse to feed and clothe his kids never entered his head

The one time I bought something for myself was 'proof' id waste 'his' money

He still bangs on about the time I spent £50 on nappies,wipes,cream,children's toothpaste and a cheapy hairbrush as mine had given up (we where together at the time)

It was my £50 but again 'proof' that I only thought of myself and would spend 'his' money on myself

He's still telling both stories 27 years on and people swallow it and agree im the unreasonable one!