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Divorce/separation

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Life ruining or am I just suffering winter blues?

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Thegrassroots26 · 13/01/2026 20:00

Did anyone else feel like their marriage failing/ending ruined their life? I know this sounds very dramatic but I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever get over it. The sense of having failed and picked the wrong person to marry. I’m six years out from separation now and early 40s - haven’t met anyone and really felt I would when marriage ended. It wasn’t a horrible split, fairly amicable really.
The more time passes the more I think there’s no good guys left and I’ll end up dying alone.

Anyone understand or can offer some hope that it gets easier to accept at any point? What a mess I’ve made of my life. They don’t lie when they say divorce is one of hardest things to go through and live with.

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StripedVase · 25/01/2026 21:05

Thegrassroots26 · 25/01/2026 20:26

Thanks for your words @StripedVase very true and a good reminder. I’ve had some health issues too in the last year or so which have left me pretty fatigued, so doing stuff to stay occupied has been challenging. Perhaps the last few years have caught up and resulted in a bit of burn out. I think I just need to set very small achievable goals and go from there and hopefully it will help. I’ll check out Heather Havrilesky.

She has a Substack, there's also a book called How To Be a Person in the World. Some of her stuff is aimed at younger people than we but she is extremely wise and entertaining!

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