We are in the process of divorce and have agreed 50/50 on pensions. I understand pensions are ultimately split by way of a percentage but I’m unsure how that works from a technical perspective. We are using the D81 form (although this appears to be getting further away from amicable all the time, so that may change). STBXH has given me a figure based on separation date, but not divulged the total amount so I don’t know how to work out the correct percentage for the financial consent order. Is it fair for me to request this? He hasn’t shown me his CETV either, simply emailed me a number.
Also, if we are agreed on 50/50, should we be working from separation date or the current amount in the pension pots? It differs by thousands.
He is being very cagey and is refusing to discuss anything face to face or show any documentation to back up his numbers. I know this isn’t “required” for the D81, but to me it would seem to be the respectful thing to do. I have all my paperwork here and have done for months, but he outright refuses. The most recent communication I sent him was to suggest he takes legal advice on how to complete the D81 (as I know his numbers don’t stack up-this may well be ignorance rather than deception though), request proof of his figures and to offer, once again, that we complete form E for transparency but he has ignored me. There are things that have happened which have led me to be cautious of trusting him, but I also know he has taken no legal advice, or done any research. Quite frankly I’m getting a bit fed up of pointing out his mistakes.
Apologies for the long post, but if anyone has any insight regarding the pension queries, it would be much appreciated.