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Am I in the wrong for this

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BlueFlash87 · 16/10/2025 02:31

Hi, my ex and I have been split since May. We been just going along with the flow but no legal plan in place at the moment. Proposed a plan once but my ex refused it. Any engagement of custody or visitation schedule ex won't discuss. With our work we know pretty much in advance what our holiday schedules are going to be. Maybe in July or August reached out to my ex about holidays. Again reached out in September. I haven't said much since my ex hasn't answered me back on what holidays she is working. For the most part outside of one holiday the holidays I am off are the days I have the children. Except one holiday I am off falls on the day my ex would have the children. I have the day before. Am I in the wrong for not bringing the children back to my ex the night we are suppose to exchange? I gave my ex a few heads up and more than 30 days in advance notice.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 18/10/2025 09:45

I have to say @BlueFlash87 that all your posts just scream "control" to me.

You're just not willing to stick to the arrangements you and your children's mother have made. You're endlessly shifting the boundaries.

I applaud her for not backing down. You sound exhausting.

CatsorDogsrule · 18/10/2025 10:19

Can you be specific? If for example she has Weds, Thu, Fri every week, yes I agree that would seem unfair this year as these days cover Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Years Eve and NY Day too.

However, constantly asking for her work schedule is the wrong way to go about a discussion regarding US holiday celebrations with the children.

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