I know husband won't leave , house is mine, what do I do?

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I have been wanting to separate for 5 years now to the point where it dominates my every thought.
My husband is manipulative, a liar and has mental health problems. I am scared of him so I stay. To add, he has never ever hurt me or done anything to scare me , I just know this is what he is like.
We have just fallen out of love, have no respect for each other, already live seperate lives, are not intimate and have separate bedrooms. We have 2 teenagers.
I have always thought he stays with me because he doesn't have to pay a mortgage/ rent although he has paid out lots over the years and I was also a stay at home mum for 14 years . So i am grateful for that . I thought he wanted to stay for the kids also but im not actually sure now as we all seem to irritate him.
I've held on and on because of the kids and me not wanting to share custody of them whilst they were young. They are older now so not the same issue.
I have actually told him I want to separate twice , plus its pretty obvious on a daily basis. But he won't leave and I dont understand why?
How do I get him to leave? What do I do? Other than put a for sale sign up outside which I know he would sabotage the sale , I feel trapped! How do I get out of this situation as I really can't bare to waste any more of my life.
Im 40 but feel 80. The stress this has caused me has aged me tremendously and I confort eat and am now morbidly obese and have associated health problems. I feel like im heading to an early grave and I cant seem to stop it whilst in this headspace. If it wasn't that the kids were here I would just walk out and let him have everything but I can't

The declaration can be overridden in your divorce settlement - you’ll both have to list assets held in joint names and individual names to assess the total pot . At which a fair division will be made based on principles of fairness in divorce

all of those things are pretty common behaviours during divorce im afraid - and not reasons for him to leave or an occupation order

Realistically if he moves out he can do all of these things as well.

All of the things you listed OP are shitty and difficult and his propensity to behave in this way is no doubt why you want a divorce.

But honestly nothing you have listed would be reason to continue with this general unhappiness forever .

Some of the issues you have listed, such as him not contributing and not helping with the kids will be how it is after divorce

OP - if you want to change your life, you'll need to pull yourself together and deal with whatever behaviour he throws your way.
If you are struggling - get yourself to the GP and get some help. I think many people use antidepressants during the time, just to have a bit of help. I know I did - and I used antianxiety meds during the most stressful times.
There is no other way. Unfortunately.

And yes - he'll delay, etc - but the process will still continue and eventually you'll be free. If you do nothing - nothing will happen and years from now you'll be at the same place.

It's nonsense.