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Children not allowed to my house

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Boobec90 · 28/08/2025 06:29

I need some advice on childcare arrangements. My partners ex isn’t allowing him to bring his children to our home. They have been through mediation but that has been stopped by his ex as she doesn’t think it’s working.
When he goes to collect the children he’s told he is only allowed to take them to his mums. Most of the time they refuse to go with him and his mum has to collect. They had a positive relationship before the break up. He is seeking legal advice but obviously that’s going to take ages.
it’s very obvious to see that she is saying negative things to the children about their dad as the things they come out with are not age appropriate at all. Children are 6 and 4 years old.
He is afraid that she will cut contact if he brings them here, although we both know he doesn’t need permission. She has done this before. She uses the children’s mental health and reflects her own emotions onto them.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

OP posts:
ButSheSaid · 28/08/2025 13:51

Your boyfriend seems to have started a thread about this, also.
Don't get entangled in other people's messes, just enjoy dating, your boyfriend can take his ex to court to sort out properly parenting 50/50.

caramac04 · 28/08/2025 13:57

OP hasn’t yet answered the questions of how long she has been in a relationship with this man and if she was the OW.
I think we need to know more before advising.
Ultimately, the dc come first and they are still very young.
Agree with pp, look at it from the mums point of view. It could be very difficult for her to let her children to go somewhere with ex’s new dp but she feels comfortable with MiL supporting the care of her dc. That’s not a bad thing and it sounds like the dc are happy with the arrangement.

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