I am a single mother raising two daughters in London. I never imagined the road through the family court system would be this difficult.
My ex-husband has a long history of alcohol addiction. For the safety of my children and myself, I had no choice but to divorce. Later, due to his drinking, he suffered a traumatic brain injury. While he has some speech difficulties, his daily life is fully functional – he rides a bike, drives, works, and manages everything normally.
A few months ago, I paid for an independent medical assessment by Professor G.C. Fox. The conclusion was that he “lacks litigation capacity.” This has now become a loophole he uses to avoid responsibility. The court gave him until 11 August to appoint a litigation friend, but he has simply refused. Meanwhile, he does not contribute to the mortgage, does not pay child maintenance, and continues to occupy the house that my parents originally bought for me. Behind him, there is also a so-called “friend” constantly giving him manipulative advice, making the situation worse.
I work, pay rent, raise the children, and shoulder all the legal fees alone. The cases are stuck because of a procedural loophole, and I am running out of strength and resources to continue.
Looking back, my biggest regret was putting his name on the property deed – something I did only because he took out a loan for house renovation. That decision now leaves me trapped.
I know I am not the only single mother struggling in this system. I share this because I am exhausted, and because I hope someone out there might offer advice, support, or even just understanding.
How can I continue? How can I bring this case to an end?