Losing your post-divorce virginity: I need your stories!

[EmmaThompsonsTears]

SO.

I got together with my soon to be ex husband quite young (first term of uni!), and have only ever had sex with ONE MAN in the last decade and a half.

Thought it would be fun to ask you lot what losing your post-divorce virginity was like.

Especially if you’re a big nerd like me and had only ever been with one person pre-divorce/split.

Looking for disaster stories. Oddly endearing and sweet stories. Cautionary tales. Reassuring tales. Tales you could NEVER tell anyone in real life.

Fundamentally I need reassurance but felt like this could also be funny.

Nothing that offends my eyes and the community guidelines though please I’m very delicate right now 🙏🏻

Ha yes same for me. I would love a good old snogging session but terrified of the idea of being naked. I think the marriage being dead in the bedroom for so many years has completely crushed my confidence, so I need to focus on getting that back before I brave it!

I'm almost 2 years out of a relationship where there was no sec for several years. I'd say is had to be 6 years since... I think that scares me the most! I love the idea of kissing again, but the mum body and my confidence isn'thigh. However... I joined a dating app and if having a conversation is such a struggle for some men I don't know how I'll even get to a date haha 😆 🤪 loving these stories and advice, giving me hope!

I think that if it gets to the point you're prepared to get physical with someone (and it's not a meaningless one night stand - if there is such a thing; sex was so much more than that for me but that's just me I guess) then there's going to be a v strong connection before you get to that point. Trust me - the bloke wants you (and more important, is v aware that perhaps they aren't an oil painting /adonis either under their clothes). Just remember - they want you and only you. In whatever form you come in. At our age I think we realise that time is definitely ticking. That you've got to get on and that beauty is so much more than just skin deep. Lust/desire/want is a v powerful thing. Revel in the fact that he wants you and hopefully you want him. I use 'him' in this context because I'm a bloke and desire women but it goes for all relationships of whatever persuasion imo.