Ex wants to go for Primary Carer of DS (UC)

[StripeySeaCreature]

I have PC of both children as ex works very long hours. Ex now wants PC of our teen as he wants the UC element and CB. He’s also talking about picking teen up at 8.30pm so he can sleep over his to get PC status. Opinions please?

When exactly did you leave your DH? Surely he has as much right to have the children 50/50 as you do? How have you managed to find a new place to live in 24 hours AND get UC sorted out?

He does, but if he’s not parenting them and leaving that to the op until evening and it’s convenient for him, it’s 50/50 on paper only, so he doesn’t have to pay. Which is shit.

But according to her other post, she only left him yesterday!

Well some posters use mumsnet to rehearse different scenarios. If you've no trustworthy IRL support I imagine it helps.

Picking the teen up at 9pm and returning him in the morning just so he's sleeping at his house is pointless. He could put in a counter claim for UC now - he doesn't need to have him sleeping over. UC will determine who should get it.
Why does he feel he should get the UC for him? Is it about being 'fair'? Can you make up the shortfall by going back to work? I assume you get extra UC and DLA for your younger child?

No, I told my parents yesterday.

My other post was just about telling my parents and explaining the situation. Ex knows we are separated and I’m in the process of settling up a house to move into.

Thats a good point. What he is proposing isnt reasonable at all but this would make that point.

Why does he need to pick the teen up? He could travel and be in ex’s house by himself surely?

I think it’s fair enough to be honest, you do have 50/50 care and it is really common when separated to have each parent claim for one child especially if the care is split.

Are there now three threads then?

There's one with pages and pages of what she's already doing here.

And now another one where she "told her parents yesterday"

And this one.

OP are you not getting enough attention? Why the identical threads? You're already, of course, getting identical responses.

According to her last post she’s still living in the same home - so not 50/50 at all, no CAO, nothing.

Have you even moved out yet or are you still sorting out somewhere to go?