Hi everyone,
This is my first post on here but I’m really looking for support and opinions outside of family and friends.
I have been married to DH now for 2 years, together for 8. We have an 6 and 4 year old.
I feel like I’ve hit a wall in my relationship where I’m really considering what my future looks like with this man. On paper this man’s probably fantastic. I met him at a time where I wanted children and he provided a home, security and there is a 15 year age gap so he was mature and unlike previous boyfriends. I’ve been through a lot in the last 8 years, news jobs, health battles amongst becoming a mother! I feel like I have emotionally checked out because I have been so used to the lack of motivation and zest towards life from him. I’ve read so many things about women divorcing the typical “nice guy” because they are just not fulfilling their needs emotionally. My family thinks I’m unhappy and need to seek something from the doctors to try and help my low mood. My friends understand that maybe this isn’t my person. If we didn’t have the children I would have left. The thought of the financial struggles and separating the family is hard but the thought of “is this it?” Forever is also hard. Has anyone been in a similar situation where they have just hit a wall? Is this an early mid life crisis? I’ve been asking for something, some motivation from him for so long (e.g moving house, bettering our situation and family) and he doesn’t match my energy. He’s said he’ll change and understand where he’s made mistakes and knows he’s not been good. I also don’t feel sexually attracted to him anymore and even kissing him feels like hard work. Have I friend zoned him? I love him but am I in love with him? He thinks my lack of sex drive is hormonal but how do you tell someone actually you just don’t fancy them anymore. He’s a brilliant dad and as I said, on paper probably a
great guy.
For the record I am 32.
Thanks in advance for any support.