Getting divorced and found out I’m pregnant…

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Hi all,
so this week my OH and I received acceptance of our divorce application and I found out I’m pregnant. I have no clue what to do; I’m 37, I have 2 kids 8 and 5, I just started a new job so the mat leave wouldn’t be great. Everything is screaming I shouldn’t have a baby but I can’t help feeling I shouldn’t just end it. OH isn’t keen on a 3rd as we’re divorcing (no big dramas, just drifted) so I don’t want to force him into something he doesn’t want. I feel like a turd for even considering not having this baby when others desperately want one and can’t, and this was a silly mistake which has resulted in a massive shock. Any advice or opinions would be gratefully received as I’m so torn. TIA

Up to you. But doesn't sound like you want a termination. So if you don't then have the baby.

I’d agree with PPs that having a baby is not a good idea right now. There’s going to be a big impact on your existing children and then you will be skint as on maternity / UC which I think is limited to 2 dc? Then trying to afford child care for three to get back out to work.

I have 3 children and 3 is MUCH harder than 2... and I have a supportive husband

Other people’s fertility issues are none of your business and shouldn’t factor in this decision at all.
I would think long and hard about the impact on your existing children - financial, emotional and practical. A divorce is a lot of upheaval for them. Can you realistically support them all? What if STBX hubby fucks off and doesn’t have contact/pay properly and you’re left doing it all. What if the third has additional needs and you can no longer work?

Use your head, not your heart. It’s tough, but you need to think more than feel. I wouldn’t go ahead in these circumstances personally. Two kids on your own is hard enough.

With existing children to consider, her “wants” go on the back burner.