Please help me I’m so stressed

[Naomi8902]

Hi everyone honestly I have been crying most of the day and I really need some help with my divorce. The back story…
My husband and I have been separated (after an 17 year marriage) for 4 years almost but neither of us could afford to initiate a divorce.
I stayed in the family home with our children and paid the mortgage/bills on my own.
We separated due to his alcohol addiction.
3 years after we separated I inherited a house which I rent out and enables me to pay the massive mortgage and financially support our daughter, he does not pay maintenance and hasn’t for over 2 years, barely sees the kids and has a new partner and lives with her.
I am buying him out of our family home with half the equity of 50/50 equity split basically, but NOT offering him any of my inheritance. I in turn am not touching his pension although it is small.
we submitted the consent order and all it came back with was me having to set a date to release my husband off the mortgage otherwise I had to agree to sell the house. Fine, did that and waited. It has now come back again, this time they want his pension details, the D81 form to be completed? I assume they mean fill in the pension details? But more worryingly this….(see image) basically that it’s not fair on my husbands side.
He has sent my solicitor this….at her request.

“I have not and do not want to instruct a solicitor, I am happy with the financial agreement my wife and I have made of a £45,000 settlement of half the equity in our marital home.
I have not paid into the mortgage since I left the property in 2021 and my wife houses and looks after our daughter. She has also provided for her financially for the last 2 years.
My wife does not want any of my pension nor child maintenance payments.
We would like a clean break. My wife is removing me from the mortgage on our family home.
£45,000 meets my needs”

please please someone reassure me, my solicitor doesn’t have time to speak to me today, what is going to happen now? Is his statement likely to be enough?

Thank you!!!

Please help!!!

Hi everyone,

I am currently going through a divorce and the process has been handled by our solicitors. We still live together with our daughter. My name is not on the property but was advised by my solicitor to stay because it would be best tactically, hence why we are still living together. We are just about to start the negotiation stage regarding the house, pension, etc.

The issue I am having now is that due to the legal fees, I haven't been able to contribute to the household bills, and as a result, my ex husband has been pressuring me to send him my share of the money. This is causing significant stress as I don’t know what else to do. I've tried my best to contribute but it has gotten to the point where I just don't have the money to. Is there anything I can do?

I had to write a letter to the judge saying I was going against my solicitor's advice and relinquishing my right to what I was legally owed by my ex husband. It was accepted. (BTW I regret this very much now, and feel I was coerced into it... but that's another thread!)

Please help!!!

Hi everyone,
I am currently going through a divorce and the process has been handled by our solicitors. We still live together with our daughter. My name is not on the property but was advised by my solicitor to stay because it would be best tactically, hence why we are still living together. We are just about to start the negotiation stage regarding the house, pension, etc.
The issue I am having now is that due to the legal fees, I haven't been able to contribute to the household bills, and as a result, my ex husband has been pressuring me to send him my share of the money. This is causing significant stress as I don’t know what else to do. I've tried my best to contribute but it has gotten to the point where I just don't have the money to. He is in a very good job, and can more than afford to make all the payments on his own. Is there anything I can do?