Why do women put up with so much shit.

[Gypsy2014]

Daily I see posts on mumsnet and think what the actual fuck, get a backbone is this just me.

If I had the means to get a place of my own and pay for ongoing legal services, I’d be gone like a shot.

As an aside, I don’t hold any stigma about the kids being from a ‘broken’ home, I was from one myself. It’s giving up on my dream to get everything ‘right’ for my kids, and despite my very best efforts I’ve failed them against my own internal idealisation. This really is a very small part of my thinking, the rest of it will fall into place because it usually does.

I know I’ll get there.

Agree with this. Very ignorant OP post, until you have been through it you don't know.
OP - Have you never heard that abusive men often go for successful assertive women and work to destroy them as its more of a challenge.
As an example Mel B hardly comes across as a timid person does she and look what happened there to a self suffiviant, confident, mega successful woman.
Women of all types of personality, social standing and jobs are at risk. The only common denominator is being a woman. There's plenty of evidence and research out there OP if you care to find the answers to your own question.
But what you have assumed is so far off the mark.

Then you know absolutely nothing at all about domestic abuse.

Because the alternative is not seeing your children for up to 50% of the time, years of arguments over Xmas and birthdays, having your children subjected to whatever girlfriends or step children your ex chooses to bring into their lives and all this on less money and being subject to the insecurities of the private rental market.

It's a pity nobody has invented a pill or injection that could switch off that desire. Like Mounjaro for breeding rather than eating.

@Spectre8

I'm sorry your mum says that to you! I'm the same as you, mid 40s, single and no kids. I'm very happy with my life but it's taken a while to accept that I'm not 'a failure' because of how society deems how my life should be at this age.

It's a culture clash i don't hold it against her she is slowly coming to accept my decision.

@Larrythebloodycat

That's funny! Maybe that'll be the next thing on the market.

I'm probably in the minority but never had the biological urge to have children and for which I'm grateful as I'm single at 44 and suspect had I desperately wanted a child, I would have 'settled' for any man.

@Spectre8

I understand that. It's probably an alien concept to her if marriage and children is all she's ever known. But still, it's sad that a life isn't seen as worthy because of this.

I was raised like this.
And it's exactly why I put up with a lot of shit for far longer than I should have.

The people around me were doing the same. It took me quite some time to realise that wasn't how life had to be.