He’s disposing of all the money

[Peppersalty]

Hey all, so got the x’s form E and he’s made large payments to his family members in the last couple of months.
obviously I will raise these points but how many have been successful with this kind of thing please?
hes also not attached documents like his business accounts and lied his way through the whole form 🤦🏼‍♀️
it’s so frustrating when I have been so honest with mine.
thanks for taking the time to read this. I guess I’m just after some reassurance really.

Thank you x although everyone tells me that I just can’t help but think he will come out on top and laughing at me x

no he knows I’ve got a lot of stuff on him with messages and doorbell footage so now he acts the victim in messages x

I’m sorry you’re going through all of this - it sounds very similar to where I am! First hearing in 2 weeks. He’s omitted so much, including one bank account and the fact that he’s lived with his girlfriend for over a year. He hasn’t listed his assets and is fighting my list. He doesn’t seem to understand that you can’t just opt out of questions in a court document. I’m told that he will be laughed out of court but as he lives overseas, I’m very nervous.

Anyway, we’ve done our bit: now all we can do is hope the process works. Good luck!

Oh bless u x I’m so sorry you are too dealing with this x it’s crap isn’t it x my inbox is open x
just unbelievable after 22 years of marriage it comes down to this. Narcissist comes to mind x please let me know how u get on x and no matter how much people say the court will see through them you can’t help but worry x praying all goes well for you sweetie x lots of Luck x

If nothing else you could get him for it looking like a tax dodge, you're not supposed to gift people more than 3k in a year.

I know it might not seem like it, but this is a good thing as your solicitor and the judge will see this obvious attempt to hide money and it will go against him. It won’t end well for him. Try not to worry.

Oh wow really? X that’s good info x thank you x

Thank you so much x it’s so hard x I’ve got my health issues and this and sometimes I just feel like it’s all closing in on me x so thank you x

He’s made himself look like a right tool. I don’t think he will get away with it

I really hope he doesn’t x thank you x

I think you are thinking of the IHT rule that allows 'small' gifts to be left out of an estate when considering what inheritance tax is due.

Anyone can gift anyone whatever sum of money they want.

@Peppersalty I'm fine now, its seven years since the split and divorce was finalised 2 1/2 years ago. I had a good legal team and the Judge didn't take any nonsense from ex.

Yours sounds appalling too. If there are significant assets, you may need to engage a forensic accountant, but I'm sure your solicitor is aware of that.

Try to look after yourself. He's after destroying you, so you need to develop a way of coping with the onslaught.

I had some life coaching as I was going through the initial separation. It helped me work out how I wanted to live my life post marriage, enabling me to have a goal to aim towards when things got rough. It really helped me focus on keeping it together.

Afterwards, I had help from a Women's Aid group to unpick the abuse and learn about building better boundaries and relationships. I am still single and have no desire to change that. I am happy and enjoy my life now. I hope you can find strength to get through this. It will be OK. Hang in there.

Show your solicitor.

You need a forensic accountant - PM me

Thank you x and I am glad you are doing good x women’s aid are really good and supportive aren’t they x

Do his family know about the violence and threats? Good luck x

Hiya
yea they do as it was getting worse and worse and I begged them for help few years ago but they didn’t want to know sadly. Although now they are all over him! Sickens me really does x

I agree that you need a forensic accountant, this is exactly the kind of thing that they deal with.

I havd a feeling that distributing money to family .emers is considered money laundering which is a serious crime. Id speak to your solicitor about that.

Yes this is what I was thinking x I’m seeing my solicitor on Thursday so hopefully get something sorted, he’s also over valued the fmh on the valuations by over 60k 🤦🏼‍♀️ nightmare honestly

Hiya
yea they do as it was getting worse and worse and I begged them for help few years ago but they didn’t want to know sadly. Although now they are all over him! Sickens me really does x

So sorry OP. People are twats ☹️

How did your court hearing go?

Hey it’s not happened yet x I will let you know how it goes x I’ve got his questionnaire back from the form e exchange and even that he’s lied on 🤦🏼‍♀️ unbelievably frustrating only 1 question relates to the finances. So stressed out with it all now honestly. Xx

It’s all extremely stressful. Deep breaths!

Thank you x it’s awful honestly x