@MyWillow I have been involved in a similar case where unfounded accusations were made about my exH - that our child was exposed to sex work and me as an alleged victim of his coercive control and even human trafficking. Firstly, I now think it was @AlbertVille who made that shit up and called the cops. There's clear modus operandi there 😂
What followed was so prolonged (5 years! ) and traumatic for everyone involved that I would be very, very careful about opening that lid.
I was ascribed as a victim to something that never happened and that was more difficult to shake off officialy than my ex's status of accused.
The social services dropped their involvement nearly straight away after their own concerns of false accusations but that didn't stop the police from doggedly pursuing their case.
I lost my office job, police early-dawn raided our house and confiscated every electronic device, including my phone, work laptop and child's game console. We didn't see those back for 2 years. The search completely traumatised me and DS. We were treated like shit, despite being the alleged victims.
Nothing of evidence was found during searches (apart from mention of condoms on the search report... 🙄)
ExH was arrested twice to be questioned, released with no charge on both occasions and yet was still stopped from seeing our son, contacting me or going near our home.
After being so invested in the case, including resource and budget wise, the police even attempted to mislead and coerce me into going to court as a victim. They were using my lack of knowledge of criminal procedures and lack of legal representation (a victim doesn't get a lawyer) to misconstrue my statements.
After years of this nightmare no official charges of any kind were brought against my exDH, all I got was an oral apology and "mistakes were made" and "someone took 2 and 2 and made 5 out of it".
I only shared my experience to urge to evaluate the weight of well-intentioned but maybe unfounded accusations vs the family chaos and trauma it can cause to everyone, including the named victims.
From the same experience:
I know that Social Services (and so follows that Family courts too) would want to be involved if there's sex work carried out in the home where children are staying. It wasn't the situation in our case but it was assessed. It isn't a crime in itself though, as there are thousands of mums on Only Fans filming in the family home whilst children are at school. The main focus will always be on what children might actually be exposed to directly. The parent would have to demonstrate safeguarding considerations in this matter.
If you want to go down this route with an official statement of concern, be prepared for social services involvement as a minimum and all of your children interviewed in age appropriate manner.
The pornography available online wouldn't be of concern (unless accessible to minors), accidental exposure to a nude pic wouldn't be either (my son has seen quite a lot in art museums) and nor would be a bagged stash of dress-up paraphernalia.
OP, if you haven't already, make your valid concerns known to ex. Tell him that social services wouldn't take lightly to sex work in the same home as children.
But an official report could potentially escalate and not achieve much other than untold amount of disruption.
I'd try to get him to rein it in first.
The most important - I do think he sounds like a vile cock slave. I have the ick reading about those escapades. Hopefully the old-age impotence will dampen his film career.