Mediation - what is the point?

[Milly1970]

Hello,
I am currently in the process of getting divorced. My husband and I cannot agree to the financial order and he says the next step should be mediation.
I have sought legal advice and in accordance with this, my proposal is fair and reasonable. My husband's offer is very low and I do not think it would be agreed in court or deemed fair.
What is the point of mediation if we do not agree, can the mediator suggest a compromise? In a way, I do not want to compromise as my offer is reasonable but of course I cannot go into mediation with this mindset and I am not arrogant in the way I am thinking and not taking anything for granted. In a way, I would want more than my proposal so if I compromise, I will be receiving even more?
Has anyone been in a similar position, gone through mediation or any other resolution method?
many thanks
Milly

The thing is I will not be pressured, he thinks I am weaker than him. He obviously doesn't know me!!

Wow, £15k is a lot but as you say, cheaper than the alternatives.

Thank you

My mediation was nowhere near £15k. Ours were 1-1.5h long and total cost was £1700 for about 6 or 7 sessions

The trouble is when both parties won’t give in to pressure costs mount up, emotions get higher, and relationships even further strained.
it becomes a I must win scenario

in which case you can easily spend more ( let alone the emotional energy) than the value you are arguing over

now that’s not to say you should concede- but if you approach this as a battle of wills and also aren’t prepared to negotiate in good faith or compromise at all, it does not bode well

Thank you very much for this advice. Duly noted when our mediation starts

@Milly1970 In mediation consider the Section 25 Factors. https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1973/18/section/25

I'm sure you can do it for less. Our mediator's hourly rate was about £400 and we had many hours of mediation, plus you also pay for the time the mediator spends before and after the mediation reading the papers, corresponding with you regarding proposals, etc.

I'll get right on it @Jane221 Thanks for that!