Children visiting grandparents abroad.

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I don't speak to my children's grandparents but I have agreed to let them visit this summer.

So ex mother in law is collecting them from the UK, flying them back to her house for 2 weeks then bringing them back.

Last time I filled out the correct paperwork but I wasn't entirely happy about the whole thing. For example I never actually saw confirmation of the flights home and they accused me of being tricky by asking for it. Bottom line. I don't trust them.

However I don't want to stop the DC having a relationship with them and in future years they may not want to go and I get a break so it needs to happen.

My question is this, last time I put the DC's names on some kind of register. It wasn't accusing anyone of anything it was just a place you can log details if you have any concerns. It gave me peace of mind. I can't remember what it's called, where I found it or if I completely made it up. Can anyone help?

Have you lost your mind?

You can facilitate a relationship if and when they visit the U.K. The fact that FIL doesn’t fly isn’t your problem.

These people have treated you despicably and caused you significant trauma…and you’re thinking of releasing your children to go and stay with them in another country? Just no.

Alright everyone. Point taken. I haven't actually agreed to anything yet. I've done it before and now I'm having doubts.

My ex MIL lives in Cyprus, there is not a single tiny fucking chance I would allow this with my DD.
She wouldn't dare ask. Although I'm sure would love to have my DD to herself for a couple of weeks.
And there was nothing like the backstory or dreadful relationship you have.
My DD is 11 and she might go and visit with her dad this summer, she would NOT be going on her own and frankly, nor would she want to.
Why are you putting your ex in laws feelings above those of you and your children?