Need help with council housing

[Haley86]

for background see my other posts. After one year I am still forced to shared a privately rented flat with my abusive ex who uses it to control and abuse me even more.

I am being drained of funds by the court process and lost my job. I am on UC but live in Kensington which is obviously expensive.
I have lived here for years.

He also ruined my credit score by taking debt on my name. Even if I get a high paying job I can’t have a deposit or rating good enough so I am trapped.

My kids already had to move schools. One is SEN. I suffer from depression and anxiety and between all of that can not possibly handle moving somewhere far away.

RBKC council have been most unhelpful. They say I am not eligible to be on council housing list because we rent a two bed flat and are not overcrowded. they only suggest somewhere 2 hours away as an option…It’s just not something I or my kids can handle emotionally…I have been suicidal in the past and going through DV, am I wrong to think there’s some duty of care within the area I’ve lived in for years, where my kids go to school?

I’ve chased and chased them.
I did not even get a written response as they promised. I can be dead from domestic abuse or the consequences of it tomorrow and no one cares.

I am utterly desperate and don’t see a way out…Shelter are impossible to reach btw over months of calling/chat .
An advocate who knows the rules and can help on my behalf is what I need but I can’t get one 😔 I never thought I would be in this place, and never believed there is no help.

Op you’ve had some really good advise, you need to start being realistic.

the council will not offer you a variety of options for you to evaluate when you’re only at risk of being homeless, not homeless. Nor to be honest will they do it when you’re homeless, they will home you though.

it is highly unlikely you will get a council house in Kensington, I think you need to try to accept this, they cannot offer what they don’t have.

so as pp said you can apply as homeless, due to th4 separation and the council will house you, but this is likely to be immediately in temp accommodation

someone advocating for you will not change this.

No matter how much you want it, you aren't going to get a council flat in Kensington

The thing is, there are council flats in Kensington (including some lovely ones) and people do get them, and the people who get them aren't noticeably more needy than the people who don't - often just more tenacious. But it doesn't sound as if the OP could push through years of poor quality temporary housing, and you certainly don't get a place just by saying you will be suicidal if they don't give you one.

The point being made is there is a huge list. Many people in temp accommodation, also in dire circumstances.

ghe op will not get one, whilst not on a list, and still living at home and choosing not to leave as the options presented aren’t suitable for her.

I had the police come here to take a statement about me saying he pressured me into taking a credit card he used and have now ceased payment, while the kids were here.

he is now making out that I was an active participant and the fact the kids saw the police is very unhealthy.

I know I am not the bad guy here but I am shaking and so scared.

It's very unlikely you will get a house in Kensington... if you're getting offered other options I think you should take them...

Ok, I am not sure why you’re the bad guy, unless you’re playing martyr.

i really would focus on getting out, and you know what is required to do that.

You have been offered a property which will get you out the situation you are in. Start listening and stop making excuses as to why you are unable to move.

You will help yourself much more by accepting what the position is with the council. None of what you have posted is really anything that will change their decision.

Btw, if you are on suicide watch and have children and are looking after them you can expect the court to consider placing them with someone who is more stable and a lesser risk, ie your ex.

Saying you are suicidal is not to be thrown around lightly if you have children. The implications at court will be significant.

It's likely to be fear of the unknown that is holding you back, but you know that you and your children will not be safe until you move.

Honestly op. You're going to be in the same position this time next year if you don't change something.
You need to listen to what people on this thread are telling you in that no matter how poor your mental health it doesn't change your entitlement to a property in Kensington which you will never get. There is no charity or service that can magic up a separate property for you.