Final Hearing in the divorce proceeding.

[woolyjenny]

Hi,
We are going through a toxic divorce and we just cant come to a conclusion.
Yes it will cost alot of money, but I fell that I deserve more than his offer. We have been married for nearly 20 years , nobody else involved. He started questioning me about the amount of money I was spending, as if he cant afford it, anyway I was wondering if any body has reached the final hearing and whether they have any tips to share with me. What kind of things are discussed?
did any one come out quite well?
Is it is as brutal as made out? Thankyou if you are willing to share.

It seems more likely to me that some of the income figures are wrong. I am somewhat doubtful anyone would be voluntarily paying more than half of their net income in maintenance pending settlement, especially if they are receiving legal advice.

Have I got this right?
He's offering 70:30 and you can't agree??
You've rung up credit card debt while you've had a significant spousal??
Honestly, the court is likely to offer less.
From a 20 year marriage with 2 much younger children I got 55%.
As others have said, your earning potential and your children nearing independence will be taken into account. You've done bloody well out of it so far as well.
(This isn't a reverse, is it?)

Really??? And you're making £55k/year in a part-time job?

You're being bloody greedy.

I have a growing suspicion the OP meant to write that their part time work paid £500 a month and made a typo but we will see.

Op, you might need to clarify some numbers as they don’t seem to stack up.

Also, are there any savings or pensions or investments at all?

OP is the new girlfriend 😜

Even if op figures aren’t correct I don’t see a case for spousal when she can work full time and children are ( near) adults

There might be a case for a transition to independence phase of about a year, if her income is more like £500 rather than £3.5k at the moment. It might also make a 55/45 rather than 50/50 asset split more plausible.