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Divorce/separation

Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.

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Husband wants us to sort finances out amicably together

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Namechange448 · 05/09/2023 10:45

So I have started using a solicitor, currently the solicitor has sent a letter to my husband's solicitor to ask for financial disclosure etc.
My husband has got in touch with me to ask can we sort this out amicably together or with mediators rather than use solicitors as apparently their fees will cost a fortune and we will end up hating each other , he says .

I would love to do it this way but I have no idea what I'm entitled to legally, I would want to know what he has first and let the solicitor tell me what I'm entitled to first based on his financial disclosure. Then at least I know what I'm entitled to and can go into discussions with him being informed.
I have a son who I'm the main carer for and I just want what I'm entitled to , no more and no less so that we can start afresh.

Is it possible to do it this way, find out what I'm entitled to first and then decide what to do?
I just can't go into discussions with him not having a clue what the equity is in the house etc.
I would like to say he has a history of being tight with money.

OP posts:

millymollymoomoo · 09/09/2023 14:46

@SunRainStorm and the starting point for assessing what a fair share looks like us understanding and articulating needs ( of both parties)

PosterBoy · 09/09/2023 14:47

https://www.mediateuk.co.uk/what-is-form-e-divorce-and-do-i-need-to-complete-it/

Here's some information about the forms

Do you already have a rough idea of values of savings? House? Mortgage? Other debts?

For pensions have you both applied for a CETV of all pensions?

What is a Form E Divorce and Do I Need To Complete it?

What is a Form E Divorce - and do I need to do one? Form E Divorce is a financial statement used in divorce proceedings in the UK. It is a document that sets out the financial position of each party in a divorce case and is used to help the court make...

https://www.mediateuk.co.uk/what-is-form-e-divorce-and-do-i-need-to-complete-it

millymollymoomoo · 09/09/2023 14:48

Mediation will require financial disclosure.
a solicitor can be used alongside this

You’ll be expected to work full time and maximise your own earnings as quickly as is possible if you don’t already and any settlement will consider earning potential not what you earn now

MrsCarson · 09/09/2023 15:17

Uterusbegone · 05/09/2023 19:11

Yeah I'm always super suspicious of 'you don't need a solicitor, we should work it out between us' as in my (suspicious) mind it translates to 'I have more than you are aware of and I would prefer to only split what you know about'

Yes me too, I always think that they must have accounts/savings/shares you know nothing about and will deny until blue in the face.
Keep it with the solicitors so that you don't feel ripped off. Women get taken for a ride by smiling ex's who want to do it between us and make it all so friendly, while stabbing you in the back.

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