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Should I make her Famous?

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JustaDad123 · 26/05/2023 11:27

Ex-wife convicted of benefit fraud, she stole £48,000 before we were married. I paid the debt for her so she avoided prison. Only married 6 years when she decides she wants to move on (I had suspicions she was cheating). We agreed on a deed of separation and split our assets, she took all the money and I kept the house and debt, it worked out a 50/50 split and I pay £1000 per month for maintenance. After 2 years of separation I filed for divorce, she was in a relationship with the guy I suspected her of cheating with. Since we separated she has spent all her money on a BMW X4, a Brand new house and mainly clothes for her. Now the money is gone she hires a Solicitor to initiate a financial order from the Court, she wants paying out on my house again, she even got the land registry to put a notice on my house so I can't sell or re-mortgage it.
Ex-wife is also now after my mums house, my mum is 64 and has nothing to her name apart from her home. I was going to buy the house off mum last year, she was unable to release funds from her home so I was going to buy it and let her live there. I got the mortgage in principle but due to other family circumstances mum decided she now wants to sell and move. I didn't take the mortgage, however the house was signed to me to get the mortgage, I have since signed it back to mum for her to sell, but now the Ex-wife wants to take her house. I was trying to help my Mum and now I have made things so much worse for her, she could lose her home now. My Ex-wife is a piece of work, she has changed her name 4 times to hide from her criminal past. When she was prosecuted for Fraud she hid her face from the media, she has changed her middle and last names, she has a new address, I feel I should warn the public about this woman, the only thing that stops me is my children.

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Doggymummar · 26/05/2023 11:30

How would you go about it?

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JustaDad123 · 26/05/2023 11:36

I would reach out the the reporters that covered her initial trail, I'm sure they would like an update and a photo to put a face to the name.

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droghedalady · 26/05/2023 11:43

I would but I've a mean streak.

PickledMuffin · 26/05/2023 11:45

I would also.

aModernClassic · 26/05/2023 11:50

I would.
And you should talk to a solicitor about your mums house. As it's not a marital home, I don't think she'll be entitled to a share.

AnOKYearForTheRoses · 26/05/2023 11:51

Nah. You’d only look like the pathetic dude who put up with her shit as long as she was shagging you.

RoseAdage · 26/05/2023 11:57

No, she your children’s mother.

The bit about the mortgage sounds v odd. Has the mortgage money just been repaid?

Jackienory · 26/05/2023 11:59

Do it and do it now.

WoofWoofBeachLife · 26/05/2023 12:03

I'm not clued up with English law and divorce but I thought once a deed of separation was agreed and signed that was it, meaning neither party could come back again looking for more. This is disgusting especially for your poor Mum. If you have signed the house back over to your Mum surely that cannot be taken into consideration. Sounds like my Husbands ex wife she was a piece of work and a greedy grabber. Xx

My3cents1 · 26/05/2023 12:04

Whatever did you see in her?

OneForTheRoadThen · 26/05/2023 12:05

Why did you marry her if she committed that huge fraud before you got married?

FloofCloud · 26/05/2023 12:06

Wow! She sounds like a real piece of work! I would really like people like that to get a good shock to the system! I hope you get things sorted and she gets her comeuppance

NerrSnerr · 26/05/2023 12:06

Would it be in your children's best interest to do it?

kingtamponthefurred · 26/05/2023 12:12

Well, you knew what she was like before you took her on, so you are unlikely to get much sympathy on here.

Hottoffeesauce · 26/05/2023 12:12

You married somebody knowing they had committed fraud. What goes around cones around.

CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt · 26/05/2023 12:13

Sounds like you were fine with her fraud and scams until she left you.

I don't think any reporter will give a hoot about benefit fraud best part of a decade ago tbh.

I imagine you know she's on here and this is some weird veiled threat/message to her. It happens a lot on here.

I understand your annoyance, but putting your kids in the position of being bullied at school about this probably isn't the best thing. Deal with it through the correct legal channels, and make sure your kids are safe and protected, it sounds like they need at least one reliable grown up putting them first.

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JustaDad123 · 26/05/2023 12:15

She got prosecuted retrospectively, basically 6 months after we got married for a claim she made years before. she had not been declaring any money received from me, I'd paid her £160,000 over a 5 year period and she didn't tell the social.

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Talia99 · 26/05/2023 12:49

No journalist is going to care unless she is already famous (new fiancée of footballer X, new winner of online reality show etc). Otherwise you can tell journalists but they need a ‘hook’ to hang a new story on and you don’t have one.

007DoubleOSeven · 26/05/2023 12:51

I wouldn't do that the children.

But I would consult a decent solicitor.

innerspace · 26/05/2023 13:02

What journalist would even care about that. Are you hoping one will contact through here and that’s why you are writing a long story and throwing out a cast net?

Harrysarseinthedogbowl · 26/05/2023 13:09

JustaDad123 · 26/05/2023 12:15

She got prosecuted retrospectively, basically 6 months after we got married for a claim she made years before. she had not been declaring any money received from me, I'd paid her £160,000 over a 5 year period and she didn't tell the social.

What would a non-retrospective prosecution look like, exactly?

Bathintheshed · 26/05/2023 13:17

No I wouldn't. In the unlikely event a story was published, it is possible the story would tar you with the same brush. Even if it didn't, locals and people that know you may do. You'd potentially be committing career suicide and that is before you even consider your DC.

Mumuser124 · 26/05/2023 13:19

I absolutely would and I’d tell her what I was going to do

RoseAdage · 26/05/2023 13:31

The more you say, the more I think you’d be nuts to do this as the story could very easily be told as the two of you being complicit until she went her own way. That is, if it’s true at all.

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/05/2023 13:33

Came on to say no, of course you can’t, what a horrible thing to do. Not so sure now …..