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Ex moved 250 miles away with our child

29 replies

Dad6 · 05/04/2023 13:41

Ex and I separated a couple of months ago and we have been staying with family about 45 mins apart (both from different suburbs of same city, we were renting before this). Ex has now moved 250 miles away with our son (who turns 2 in June) to live near her Mum who moved away a few years ago. Ex says needs the support, I get that, but just seems a bit unreasonable to move a child 250 miles away from their Dad, particularly as we both have support of other family members and friends within 45 mins of each other, which would obviously be a lot easier to manage. What am I supposed to do now? I have job / family (inc elderly parents who I support) and friends where I am now, but son takes priority and I suspect I will have to move away from all that to maintain relationship with son growing up. I’ve been a devoted Dad since he was born, so I’m not going to change that…I suppose just wanted to have a moan at the unfairness of it all…not just for me though, I don’t think it’s particularly fair on our son though either tbh

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Timeforachange2023 · 12/04/2023 17:35

usererror99 · 05/04/2023 19:22

Why would you think "other family members and friends" can offer her the support??? It's not for you to make that judgement. For most daughters their closest family member who they turn to for childcare and emotional and physical support is their mum

Of course you can take her to court but from what I'm led to believe it's more difficult once she's already moved

And to be honest it can come across as rather controlling and why would you want your son growing up with an unhappy mother because she's prevented from living where she wants with the support she feels she needs? (Assuming she's not the sort to be deliberately vindictive and that being the presiding reason for her move)

This post is a complete joke.

Based on the OP’s post, the mother is the one being controlling and selfish and making decisions based on her own wants and desires.

The family court operates on the presumption that a child’s best interests are served when both parents play an active role in their lives. They don’t work on the basis of what’s best for parents.

This is clearly a case where a child arrangements order might need to be made. You might need to go to court and you shouldn’t shy away from it.

It will come across as a case of a caring father that wants to be part of his child’s upbringing because he takes his prenatal responsibility seriously.

drpet49 · 12/04/2023 17:39

LemonTT · 05/04/2023 13:56

You can apply for a prohibited steps order. Speak to a solicitor.

A child needs to be near his parents. Adults don’t need to be near their parents having committed to having a child and putting down roots elsewhere.

This. Apply for the order OP.

Mumof3confused · 15/04/2023 21:39

Legal advice quickly. Most solicitors have an initial free chat or fixed fee session. It’s not in the child’s best interest to live 250 miles from their father. But do it quickly before she comes established with nursery etc.

Whatamess23 · 26/10/2024 23:11

Just wondered @Dad6 how did you get on? I've got a sibling experiencing something very similar.

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