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Divorce/separation

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Cheapest legitimate divorce

85 replies

WinoLino · 05/03/2023 07:56

Hi there.

Looking to divorce ex husband. We have been separated for about 5 years and had no reason to get it done as neither party looking to remarry and things amicable, we get on, co parent etc. No messy financial stuff to sort. Quickie Dirvorce want £199. Is this legitimate? Can't work out if they are offering a proper process or if it's a bit of a scam.

Thanks for reading.

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monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 14:44

ElizabethinherGermanGarden · 05/03/2023 14:21

Monsterradeliciosa Do you mean the decree absolute paperwork? You'd need it if you wanted to use it to support your name change back to maiden name without a deed poll, and would certainly need the form to get married again.

I never changed my name
I never wanted to get married
he was very controlling
i need him gone
when my dad dies I’ll get a life changing mortgage free house

he’ll come for it
like he is my daughter who isn’t his

I’m dealing with that
Working and making sure my child is unaffected

this is the most difficult period of my life
m I’ve applied for the divorce but unsure on next step and find government website unclear
they change between terms and assume some knowledge
i have none

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 14:46

ElizabethinherGermanGarden · 05/03/2023 14:21

Monsterradeliciosa Do you mean the decree absolute paperwork? You'd need it if you wanted to use it to support your name change back to maiden name without a deed poll, and would certainly need the form to get married again.

Sorry just seen you were only answering my question

id love to throw mine away
bad energy

Marrying again is out of the question

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 14:47

PritiPatelsMaker · 05/03/2023 14:43

@monsterradeliciosa Flowers

Hope it goes through smoothly and you're rid of him soon.

Thank you
it B won’tbe smooth out soon but one day will be over one way or another

im changed after this

I’ve seen evil I’ve only heard about in fables

foleys · 05/03/2023 15:00

PritiPatelsMaker
Definitely different and I don't think there's legal aid for divorce now.

There is with domestic abuse but I just applied for fee waive based on income

How did you do that? @monsterradeliciosa Just wondering how people on lower incomes afford £500 and have to remain married.

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 15:11

foleys · 05/03/2023 15:00

PritiPatelsMaker
Definitely different and I don't think there's legal aid for divorce now.

There is with domestic abuse but I just applied for fee waive based on income

How did you do that? @monsterradeliciosa Just wondering how people on lower incomes afford £500 and have to remain married.

Filled in the fee waiver form then input the reference number on my divorce form

now I wait for approval then I hope my divorce begins

PritiPatelsMaker · 05/03/2023 15:22

@foleys you can apply online for help with Court fees heree*.

If you do it online there is usually a place for you to enter the reference number it gives you.

WinoLino · 05/03/2023 15:53

@Fourmagpies yes I meant my current partner sorry. My ex husband certainly knows and agreed to a divorce ☺️

Anyway I've started the process. It was very easy. Thank you all for convincing me not to go through a company.

😊😊

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PritiPatelsMaker · 05/03/2023 15:56

WinoLino · 05/03/2023 15:53

@Fourmagpies yes I meant my current partner sorry. My ex husband certainly knows and agreed to a divorce ☺️

Anyway I've started the process. It was very easy. Thank you all for convincing me not to go through a company.

😊😊

Well done! That's fantastic and you've saved yourself some money Wink

Fourmagpies · 05/03/2023 15:57

WinoLino · 05/03/2023 15:53

@Fourmagpies yes I meant my current partner sorry. My ex husband certainly knows and agreed to a divorce ☺️

Anyway I've started the process. It was very easy. Thank you all for convincing me not to go through a company.

😊😊

That makes more sense! 😊

Well done for getting it started.

WinoLino · 05/03/2023 19:49

Thanks so much. Paid the fee and should hear from the court by the 2nd April.

Now I have to draft a consent order!

Exciting!

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monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 20:00

WinoLino · 05/03/2023 19:49

Thanks so much. Paid the fee and should hear from the court by the 2nd April.

Now I have to draft a consent order!

Exciting!

Do you?
I didn’t see any such instructions
is that next after filing the divorce?

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 20:04

You have to wait five months to get an order
still married
jesus why?

than apply for final order

all the waiting

pain

peanutbutterkid · 05/03/2023 20:39

I am in this process OP. We know exactly what we want to do, we're satisfied it's fair, we have worked it all out. Except for the parts about which forms in what sequence....

There's the initial form, D8, which is what you filed. Mine completes mid June 2023.

When we get past D8 cooling off period, we have to file form D84.
D84 is the actual form to ask for divorce in principle.

While D84 is being processed, we can prepare form D81. This one requires an estimate of how much of our house value in ££ and pension values etc.... annoying since we each want 50% and we don't know the value because we want to finalise divorce before sale. We want consent/financial/whatever order to state we both keep 50%. Since it doesn't get filed until the cooling off period is done, we will probably not ask for the pension values until start June, too.

Sometime (6 weeks?) after we file D81 with £53 fee, we can then apply for final order (with some other D8xxx form, I guess).

This is also how I'm confused. The rotten forms themselves have typos & other weird statements. Like form D84 says "11. Have you read the application application for divorce/dissolution/ (judicial) separation?" besides the double-noun-speak, there's literally no instructions to help me answer that question, which application, do they mean form 8 that we jointly wrote & submitted?

Meanwhile, form 81 has a title. The title is "Statement of information for a consent order in relation to a financial remedy" : so that sounds like an application for The consent Order, right? What else is form 81? Meanwhile, Form 81 also has Question "7. How was the proposed consent order, attached to this form, reached?" ... that means Form 81 is NOT the application for a consent order. Form 81 is Something Else with a "consent order" to be attached to it.

Or it's another typo. Like "application application".

There are literally no up to date DIY guides on Amazon how to do divorce under the new No-Fault rules.

I truly hate Legalese.

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 21:34

The cooling off period should not apply where there’s been domestic abuse in my view

peanutbutterkid · 05/03/2023 22:05

I get why you might say that, Monster.
DV is part of picture in friend's divorce.
It's taking her "forever" to get divorced. The 5m cooling off period is only a small fraction of how long it's taken for them. They couldn't ( emotionally) progress any faster, anyway.

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 22:32

peanutbutterkid · 05/03/2023 22:05

I get why you might say that, Monster.
DV is part of picture in friend's divorce.
It's taking her "forever" to get divorced. The 5m cooling off period is only a small fraction of how long it's taken for them. They couldn't ( emotionally) progress any faster, anyway.

Yes mine will drag it out for sure

WinoLino · 06/03/2023 09:47

@monsterradeliciosa sorry if I confused you. I too feel confused! I just mean I think that's the next stage, I wasn't specifically told to start one Smile

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monsterradeliciosa · 06/03/2023 16:43

WinoLino · 06/03/2023 09:47

@monsterradeliciosa sorry if I confused you. I too feel confused! I just mean I think that's the next stage, I wasn't specifically told to start one Smile

Sorry for hijacking your thread I was having a bad night
good luck with everything

PritiPatelsMaker · 06/03/2023 17:09

monsterradeliciosa · 05/03/2023 21:34

The cooling off period should not apply where there’s been domestic abuse in my view

That's my view too.

WinoLino · 06/03/2023 18:16

@monsterradeliciosa don't apologise, it's good to hear from others

Amicable want £900 for help with consent order. Going to look back on this thread for advice re doing this cheaper

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PritiPatelsMaker · 06/03/2023 18:22

Amicable want £900 for help with consent order. Going to look back on this thread for advice re doing this cheaper

Be very careful about what this fee is for. Are they charging you just to fill forms (which you don't need) or are they giving legal advice (which you do need).

There's a pdf on Financial Orders produced by Rights of Women here.

Rights of Women provide free legal advice Flowers

WinoLino · 06/03/2023 18:51

@theemmadilemma can I ask more about how you did the consent order yourself please?

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theemmadilemma · 06/03/2023 18:55

We did not have a legally binding one as such. So it was not court approved. Just a statement doc signed by us both.

The consent order being legally approved is only useful if there's something you may need to legally pursue. We were happy and amicable and felt no need.

theemmadilemma · 06/03/2023 18:59

Reading re your finances, if you both tick no to financial orders, the court shouldn't require further.

Cheapest legitimate divorce
theemmadilemma · 06/03/2023 19:00

Don't let people make of complicated. It only is when ££££ is involved.