Can DIL really demand this ?

[4seasons]

DS and DIL are getting a divorce. He’s moved out of the family home ( mortgage -free) and is renting until divorce is sorted. He’s just taken a weeks holiday to visit a relative who lives in the other side of the world. His wife says he is being frivolous with money ( only paid air fare … stayed with relative) and is now demanding to see his credit card spending . Is she really entitled to do this ? So as not to drip feed … she is very controlling and wealthy in her own right. As part of the divorce settlement he is asking for very , very little. Just wants out basically.

Bloody hell that's a bit sanctimonious !!

This is an anonymous forum for woman to chat and get advice about things that are concerning them .

Would you be so sneery to a female poster who
a) was supporting HER son in his divorce against his wife

and

b) if she wasn't a mother in law. Or are mothers of sons not really considered women deserving of advice ?

Appalling misandrists on here sometimes.

*.. a poster who wasn't

With respect, why are you putting your sons business out on here? His divorce is absolutely nothing to do with you, he has already told you he is paying a solicitor to sort this out, you need to back off. Stop interfering

Of course it's to do with her. It's his mother and he's asked her advice. I was asking my dad's advice up til him dying in his 80s. She's not interfering, she's trying to look after his interests. That's what families do - look after each other.

Some great wording Aubree. I shall certainly suggest that to him.

@4seasons put an '@' in front of a username to highlight.

@Somanysocks thank you … it works !!

No, I've just lost count of the number of former menial workers who believe they could have had six figure careers were it not for their vital role in bringing up the children 😂

A lot of the 'advice' on this site is rubbish spouted by wishful thinking people who want their ex out of their lives but still stay connected by the wallet. The law is messy and discretionary and its not unheard of for people to agree terrible settlements in mediation so some of the outcomes they suggest do happen but there are ways of making the law work properly (i.e. clean breaks when they are achievable, which is 99.9% of the time).

It don't think it's a misandrist - quite the opposite in fact. I think it's an older woman hater

Well , male or female they sound as if they’ve had bad experiences. Currently I am beginning to understand the underlying irritation/ anger. I really do appreciate everyone who has written on here . Thank you.