Can somebody recommend a super decent divorce lawyer?

[Alwaysforgiving]

I've had enough and need get good advice from a good lawyer. I want to protect my assets as much as possible.

Most family lawyers are perfectly competent.

What do you mean you want to protect your assets? All assets are included in divorce settlements so I don't understand what you mean there?

I stupidly didn't protect my deposit and it's a short marriage (10 months) plus I make 3x my husband, we share one child. But I don't want to give him any money.

OK. Are you talking to him about the divorce? What have you offered him by way of a settlement so far?

Sometimes, it's worth giving money to someone just so they will fuck off quickly so don't be determined to hang on to it, it's a bargaining tool.

I've given him enough money throughout the years, I've literally had enough.

Sorry, my divorce was 20 years ago. Who do you know who's divorced recently?

I personally would pay for a remote consultation with 3 and go with the one I felt most in tune with.

Is it worth waiting for no-fault divorce - seems to be coming 6 April at last? I guess you can ask whoever you choose.

From what I know a post-nup and then wait to divorce might be the most "beneficial". Oddly enough, I think I'd be happy to remain together as a couple as long as there were no financial ties.

A lot will depend on who's the main carer I think.

I don't think it works like that. Plus don't you want him to have a good, stable environment for your dc instead of making him poor.

Tbh when people talk about 'shit hot lawyers' here, they actually mean 'knows their job'. The best lawyer in the world can only do so much.

He's completely incapable of keeping a stable income/support himself. I refuse him to be my money pit.

@Alwaysforgiving

From what I know a post-nup and then wait to divorce might be the most "beneficial". Oddly enough, I think I'd be happy to remain together as a couple as long as there were no financial ties.

Were you together momg before marriage?

Is he likey to sign a post nup? The longer the marriage the less pre/post nup are taken into account in England, if you there.

Unfortunately, its not really up to you wether you walk away with it all or not. Even a shit hot lawyers pro ably couldn't get you everything. Especially, since you earn alot more and if you wait a long time.

Has he only been like this in the last 10 months?

We've been together for 5, living together for 4. He's always been like this, but I was too blind/loved up to see any better.

@Alwaysforgiving

He's completely incapable of keeping a stable income/support himself. I refuse him to be my money pit.

Oh dear. Well that's different then. But what about what he was the dc and can't provide a home for them.

Unfortunately he'd always end up house sharing, there's nothing I can do about that

I have a good recommendation for Edinburgh if you’re in Scotland.

Unfortunately I'm the the West Country

Alot of the time once married, they take the years you were living together as well when dividing assets, including your pension.

You need advice ASAP, but I can't see it being any better if you leave it a long time.

Don't worry about the years you were together before the marriage. The court will look at the length of the marriage itself and your child's needs. Pretty straightforward.
You're in the West Country... I just don't know any lawyers there. However, everything is Zoom these days! I'm mid-divorce and my financial advisor helping me with that aspect of things is up North! With everything online, this really allows you to cast a wide net.

Here is who I would recommend... she wrote an excellent book and there's also a podcast: www.kgwfamilylaw.com/karin-walker/team/15

This barrister is one I've heard excellent things about. Also listened to her on a podcast: www.5sah.co.uk/barristers/maria-scotland

Are you in the UK, OP? I think you have to wait 2 years to divorce. Someone come along and correct me. Though is this going out the window when no-fault comes into play in April?
Also, it was mentioned above by associatepeggy that your cohabitation prior to marriage may play a role in the division of assets and peggy is actually right. It's weird. You have couples who never marry, have a property, have kids and the assets are not divided fairly or even at all! One party can literally leave the union with everything. But in your case, cohabitation moving into marriage may make a difference in how your assets are handled.
My bad for the incorrect advice previously.
You should get an appointment with Maria Scotland. She's sharp as a tack.

Well he spent our joint money on cam girls!

Catherine Silwal - partner at Silwal and Teal was great for me www.tandsfamilylaw.com/

Based on your other thread, OP, you'll need to find the details of your Trust Fund to, if possible, protect this element of your income.

I'm glad you are taking steps to separate / divorce. Good luck.

The courts will look at time pre marriage inc cohabitation

The courts will also look to split based on both needs and sharing - in a short marriage needs will come into it
He will need to be able to house his child as well as you - what are the child arrangements?
What you want to pay him vs what law says us fair are not the same
They won’t award you everything and him nothing

@Alwaysforgiving

Well he spent our joint money on cam girls!

Please tell me you just found that out and you wouldn't stay with him if you could separate finances?