I wondered how other people in the same situation stop it affecting them? I had an email from my ex on Wednesday and the panic attacks are even worse 2 days later. I’ve realised it’s having a direct impact on my ability to work, confidence, mental health, my relationships with our children. Two years down the road he’s still bullying me. Still gaslighting and lying.
We split in Dec 17, have four kids together aged 11/11/13/16. Three of them have Aspergers and are challenging, esp my youngest son. My 13yo won’t see his dad anymore since dec 19 and my 16yo has refused to go half the time in recent months. As has my 11yo dad periodically. In theory he has them two nights a week.
I blocked him on my phone about 18 months ago. I tried to unblock him earlier this year as things had calmed and then I couldn’t cope so I blocked again. After the last essay, my sister will share a new email account with me and read it first. I communicate with him as little as possible but the last email was in response to me telling him my 16yo didn’t want to come. My son didn’t want to tell him, so I did.
I just want to stop feeling like I’ve been punched every time.