Learnt to cut the grass!!! What's your equivalent?

[PicaK]

I know, it's such a small thing really but yesterday I felt like I'd climbed a mountain.
The grass had been growing and growing. He kept offering to cut it for me but then didn't for 1 genuine reason or another.
We'd got so divided in our roles/ responsibilities - it was something I'd not done before. (I did do all the life/finance admin and I know he's been slowly getting used to that too.)
Just got that feeling its going to be OK on my own for the first time.
When did that happen for others and were they big things or small things (like mine) that prompted it?

I bought a home, on my own, after years of him telling me we can’t afford one.
I got my own car insurance.
Changed bank accounts.
Plumbed in my dishwasher (I was never allowed to use it, it was a waste according to him).
Drove abroad (he always did all the driving abroad).
Learnt how to do my own car maintenance (strictly forbidden before, we paid to have it done, including filling the water and pumping the tyres WTF?!!).
Learnt how to repair a bike puncture.
Bought a drill-love it!!!
I now don’t have any wires you can see, I bought, measured and cut to fit my own trunking.
Installed a bin in a cupboard.
Fitted my own blinds.
Yy to proper Christmas tree, man, we had this shitty plastic pathetic excuse of a tree bought for £6.50 from Tesco when we got married. And even that was a battle, because it was deemed a waste of money. After 24 years of that, now I have THE best real trees ever.
I learnt how to make my own wreaths for the door and now I have them every year, they’re so so nice, I wasn’t allowed before because I would destroy the front door.
I always painted and decorated myself anyway.
Go us!!!

@buddhaatara

Just brilliant

Fixed the leak on the washing machine
Cut the grass
Shopping
Can buy what I want without being criticised
Decorating

A chest of drawers had fallen apart, wooden pieces on the floor and everything and I used a hammer to nail it all back together somehow.

Put a flat pack bed together. Also 2 man job and took forever but I did it with a little help from DC.

Bins constantly, one job I still hate. Cutting grass I am used to now and it's actually OK.

The biggest thing that I feel the most independence from is managing all the bills and finance etc.

Still can't pump up bike tire

...Got a part time job and am taking the kids out for lovely days out (obv not recently, but hopefully that will pick up again soon).
I wouldn't change it for the world xx

I love this thread.

Mine was moving the bedrooms around. He always wanted a big room for him office that he never used, so as soon as he moved out I swapped it and put DD in there, and had DD's box room as a office/junk room.

Re decorated my bedroom, bought new wardrobes, bought a new bed, new bedding. Put up mirrors all over the house, play music all day, buy what ever food I like, keep pets, have houseplants again...
He hated everything, miserable bastard

Great thread! I have too many to list but I recently bought myself a drill and hung some plants which look great.

I also unlocked the kitchen sink and fixed the tap myself.

And employed someone to cut the hedge (exh would never entertain paying someone for garden stuff and I am allergic so suffered through a lot of garden jobs)

Completely cleared the back garden of weeds and mess, painted the garden fences and bought some new garden furniture which he always said we couldn’t afford
Hired a skip and had a major clear out and I’m now decorating, building flat pack furniture and swapping 4 bedrooms around
I can do more than he believes I can 💪🏼

I have called a fencing company and made an appointment for a quote- something i always seen as male thing to do. Stuff that now, i’m divorcing so might as well get used to handling it all.

So many lovely stories here

A new one - built & learned to use gas barbecue! (Helped by 14yo DD)

We could never have BBQs before because lived on isolated farm & always too windy. Now we can.