Going through the divorce process.
Aged 50. 25 year marriage, 2 children aged 14 and 16. I have been a sahm since the oldest one was born and dh has always discouraged me from finding a job (well, he's changed his tune now!). I had quite a well-paid job when dd1 was born (£40k per year).
Dh is slightly older (52) and plans to retire at 55. He has a big pension pot - almost £1million. He is telling me that I need to get a job - any job - and work until state retirement age.
I have googled, but can't find any similar cases. Bearing in mind that I am unlikely to earn much more than minimum wage, would it be accepted that dh retire in 3 years with a pension of £30k plus, whilst I work for the next 17 years and earn maybe £20k per year? And I would be responsible for the children because there's no way they would live with him.
I know some people might think I'm being lazy, but it's not about that. Dh's salary has always been somewhat reduced because he's been squirrelling so much away into his pension. As I result, I have always had to live pretty frugally, whilst dh has spent whatever he wants and blamed me for over-spending. For example, I own a single coat (from Millets!) whilst dh has a wardrobe full of designer gear. But he still says I spend too much on myself. Tbh, I don't mind the idea of having a job in itself, I just wondered if a court would be likely to deem it fair that I retire so much later than dh, and live on so much less than him in the meantime?