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If I abandon mediation will it go against me in divorce?

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ChernobylFallout · 07/11/2019 10:05

Stbxh is driving me insane with his dishonesty and lack of engagement with mediation. The plan was to mediate to get our joint finances sorted out and come to an agreement for a financial consent order. Separated January 2017. Waited two years then submitted divorce paperwork on grounds of two year separation. He said he'd signed and returned the forms; I heard nothing and chased it up; court said he hadn't returned it. He said the forms must have been lost in the post, and that he'd request another copy; then said forms arrived and he'd returned them. Still nothing. I contacted the court who said he'd never been in touch and hadn't returned forms. Now swears he's returned them this time 🙄 But that's ten months of waiting for him to get his arse in gear - if he really has returned them.

Fourth mediation session yesterday; he's made no effort to prepare, has nothing to suggest, and whole session spent trying to get him to contribute anything other than criticising my suggestions. Mediator spent three months trying to arrange first meeting with him; he's so apathetic and avoids engaging with anything he doesn't want to do, rather than just saying he doesn't want to do it.

If I say no to more sessions when it doesn't seem to be progressing and it seems that I can't trust anything he says, will that look bad for me when it goes to the court? Feeling so resentful; I've wasted so much time and energy on trying to keep things amicable, and I'm just met with apathy and lies Sad

LilyMumsnet · 07/11/2019 10:24

We're just moving this thread over to divorce and separation for the OP. Flowers

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