Can I ask my ex to not entertain new partners in a house I still pay the full mortgage for?

[tyhopho]

I was the one to move out of the house earlier this year. We jointly own it. Her income is not that stable but is enough to cover day to day expenses for her and the kids so to ensure that the house is never under threat I am paying the full mortgage on top of my own rent elsewhere to ensure stability.

I've started seeing someone recently and thought it would be best to inform her so that if she or the kids see us walking together in the area or at the shops this will not be a shock. She refuses to say whether she is dating or not. I am uncomfortable of the idea of her bringing partners round to the house whilst I still pay for the mortgage. I have asked if she is willing to respect this and she refuses to do so. There is little I can do but I am keen to know if I am in the wrong by asking her not to host partners at the house when the kids are out.

You can't insist she doesn't entertain new partners but you can insist on missionary position only and lights off.

Yellowish actually there is a need to make it clear just how ridiculous and controlling that thought is. The scale of the response will help with generalization.

Glad you've got the message OP! I found it hard not to try to be the relationship police with my ex for a bit but life's much easier when you accept it's really not your business any more.

Financial arrangements are separate and for the security of the children. She's entitled to form new relationships.

I'm so happy to read this!! As my ex is currently filing for divorce and telling me that he will have it drawn up that I can't have anyone staying here. An if i do they will have to contribute to the house... an yes we separated because of his controlling abusive behaviour. Thanks all xx

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