How do I get him to leave? And how do we do exist in meantime?

[limon]

"D"h has decoded to separate from me.

But he doesn't know when he will be leaving.

It's only been a week. But I'm not sure I can live like this in limbo.

What are my options?

I wasn't asking, by the way, about the legal position.

I was asking about how - given he has said he will be leaving - I can either get that to happen or how we can do exist until it does.

Please stop telling my about the law. I understand the law.

Gah! Co-exist

If you know the law why are you still letting him sponge off you, you need to stop paying for his things and insist he pays his half of everything

If you are just talking about the moral position then he is morally entitled to his share of the house. You are married, its his house to and just because he is leaving the marriage doesn't mean he is leaving his home.

So morally you should either buy him out or sell the house and split the proceeds.

Just a word of caution here, my best friend and her husband split 5 years ago. (He’s choice) They had four kids under 10 who he adored, she thought everything would be amicable! Money went missing from the joint accounts and 12 month after the split he text to say I’m starting divorce proceedings, put the house up for sale I want my share! She purchased the house before they met and had paid the mortage since the split but he didn’t care about her or the kids. People change and not always for the best. Not saying this will happen but be careful.