How much did your divorce cost??

[Rebecca75]

I'm starting divorce proceedings this week, ringing the solicitor tomorrow to get the ball rolling. How much did it cost to do the whole divorce?

It'll depend on lots of things. DH's divorce cost £1600 - we're in Scotland, he and his exw had been separated for 2+ years so it was uncontested, they had already dealt with the financial side when they separated. It would have been cheaper if they didn't have to demonstrate that DH financially supports DSS and that he has regular access/DSS's emotional welfare is being met.

My tip would be: Phone a few solicitors and ask them how much a divorce costs - when DH did his, he phoned three or four ones in the town he lived in at the time, gave a run down of the situation and asked went with the one who basically gave him a capped figure inclusive of court costs.

About 4k. Would have been a lot less if my ex didn't get his solicitor to send 3 unnecessary letters a week that needed my solicitor to respond to.

Do you mean divorce, or divorce and finances?

About £4K, uncontested, just normal process. The legal fees were £230 inc VAT an hour. They soon add up. However i would never have got what I needed if we had done a DIY one.

My partners was near £50k but she's narcissistic

My divorce cost £420 (think it was that at the time although XH and I split the costs between us).

We didn’t have any assets to split and agreed about the DC so were able to do it without solicitors.

I did or myself so just the cost of filing the forms, about £520 I think.

No lawyers as no DC and we agreed finances ourselves.

£3.5k both using solicitors. Uncontested but had transfer of equity to sort out in that.

My divorce was minimal in costs as it was very plain sailing, we had no joint assets or children and we agreed everything between us.

If you or your ex don't agree things, then the cost of a divorce and resolving finances could easily run to £50,000 + each (more if you're wealthy and use expensive lawyers).

Mine was a nightmare & ended up costing me £10k.

I divorced an emotionally abusive narc - it took over 2 and a half years and went to court - he wouldn't budge from his derisory settlement offer. It cost about £25,000. But I 'won' £500,000 more in pension and house equity, plus spousal maintenance on top, so it was worth it!

Oh Crikey! We've been together 17 years and everything is entwined, not agreed what to do financially yet - still in the limbo stage so really wanted to get things moving but we don't have much cash to spend on solicitors etc.

Another one who divorced a very abusive narc. It didn't go to court but was negotiated through solicitors. Cost about £12K each. My salary was on DD to my solicitor each month for the year it took (I'm not joking)!

First divorce £350, on two years separation.

Second, very acrimonious, higher value, me£40k him £170k. Complete waste of money

£5k. It was a 2 year separation but I had to block the divorce and take him to court over finances.

My solicitor was very good and agreed that I could pay a nominal sum on direct debit and top up my fund when I could. He also let me have another 6 months after it was all finalised to pay the rest of his costs.
He was worth every penny.

Mine cost nothing as exH paid for it. It was only about 150.

DP was nothing as his ex wife paid it with legal aid.

So far on 22.5K and not done yet. It will be about 25K all together once all the loose ends are tied. Bloody hell - how is that even possible.

Would have been a lot less if stbx weren’t so difficult. It has been very stressful and pretty traumatic.

I will be divorced next week. I haven't paid anything, ex took the cost as he was in a busting rush, so I left him to it and I just yayed or nayed where necessary. Just under 1k

Mine cost £12k. Best £12k I ever spent - it brought me peace and security.

Around £150 18 years ago. No solicitors involved just filled in the forms

Those of you who have paid a lot, was that because there were child residency issues or were these also "simple" divorces merely relating to splitting of assets without DC involved?

It is dispute that increases costs, and suspicions about hiding things (file both under 'lack of trust'), rather than the existence of assets or children.

ExH just printed stuff from the internet which is signed then a year later signed again and he put it into the court and a month later I got the extract etc in.

10-12k and worth every penny. My high earning ex offered me ‘half the house and that’s it’ after 20+ years of marriage in which I’d put my career on the back burner to allow him to travel with work and climb the ladder. I got 90% house and 200k of his pension in return for a clean break . I now live very happily alone (kids gone and doing their own thing) in a beautiful, mortgage free little cottage and support myself very comfortably on my earnings from my 30k a year project support job. At the end I was paying my solicitor on an interest free credit card and was beginning to worry about the costs! Stupid thing is, I told him at the very beginning to hand the house over to me and walk away, he would not budge from his belief the house would be split 50/50. So I lost 40k on the house but gained 200k in pension