Recovering from life afterwards

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Feeling like nothing again. I had decided to end our marriage and that was a very hard decision. However went to Relate yesterday and feeling right back to the worst. Can anyone tell me I'm not worthless please, I have woken up so low. I know I'll feel ok again but doesn't seem that way right now.

@colouringinagain hi! Sorry you're in this situation. Are your DCs struggling?

Thanks help yes they are. Dd mainly re school, but ds v mixed up by it all. Has had some camhs support which has helped somewhat. Ex has been living nearer since new year which has helped a bit. I guess it's just time...

@colouringinagain that must be upsetting for you. Mine seem okay so far but it's early days. Are things between ex and yourself okay enough to work together for them? (Mine wouldn't be!)

Thanks help yes it is. I can work with ex but he is pretty clueless and not very empathetic. He either doesn't seem to notice if dd is upset or ignores her cause he has no idea what to do

@colouringinagain sounds as if it's really down to you then! A big responsibility. You sound very understanding of their needs though, even if you don't necessarily always know what to do. I think maybe this is half the battle - they know that you are totally there for them and hopefully can easily talk to you. Remember that if you see their really upset times, that must mean they feel able to let you see it. Do you mind my asking their ages? (I understand if it is too identifying for you to say.)

Feeling dreadful today. Back from holiday which was nice, me and kids and brother and family with ex down the road in bnb. Worked OK I thought. Ex now saying summer I should take them away in my own, and he will do the same. I know it's completely normal but makes v sad. I can't manage to take them camping for a week, can't afford anything else. While we were away he emptied all the rest of his stuff from the house which I knew he was going to do, but just makes it hit home again more. Now have a splitting headache and literally completely wiped out. Supposed to be going to a party now! This whole situation is so hard

@colouringinagain I'm glad you've had a good holiday. It must feel weird coming home to find the house cleared of ex's stuff. How are the children? I hope your headache's gone by now. Sending you hugs xx