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Financial rights

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Bp17 · 07/11/2017 19:47

Hi been together over 39 years lived in his family home with 6 kids. Marriage now over and I've moved out at his request waiting for council to help. I work full time and 3 of the kids with me. What are my rights to support for the children and I paid into the house for over 30 years. Thanks

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Bp17 · 07/11/2017 19:48

Need financial advice please.

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Bp17 · 07/11/2017 19:49

Need financial advice please

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lostfrequencies · 07/11/2017 19:51

What do you mean waiting for the council to help?

FlappyRose · 07/11/2017 19:54

I don’t understand. What do you mean by ‘his family home’. Who actually owns it? Where do the other kids live?

WitchesHatRim · 07/11/2017 19:55

How old are the DC?

You need legal advice really.

wannabestressfree · 07/11/2017 20:10

You shouldn’t have moved out. Have council told you they will help? They are rather funny about people making themselves intentionally homeless.

Vitalogy · 07/11/2017 20:13

Whatever your husband owns is half yours surely.

Bunkai · 07/11/2017 20:25

Move back into your home. It's a marital asset and half yours.

catsanddogsfightless · 07/11/2017 22:11

Move back in urgently. Your case weakens if you leave voluntarily. Definitely seek legal advice ASAP. Citizens advice bureau can advise you some of the way. Speak to a good friend and let them emotionally support you. If your DC are under 19 then he'll need to provide roof over their and your head.

Good wishes and strength sent to you.

WitchesHatRim · 07/11/2017 23:38

If your DC are under 19 then he'll need to provide roof over their and your head.

That's a joint responsibility not just her stbxh.

As said. You need proper legal advice.

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Bp17 · 08/11/2017 22:24

Hi thanks guys. I moved out as he became abusive towards me. The older children will stay with dad but younger ones want to come with me. The council are trying to help me with affordable private rental but proving difficult. The home was bought by his parents before we married so have no real claim on it. Don't know what I should expect him to help with as I'm homeless and without the children which he is enjoying. Any help please

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wannabestressfree · 08/11/2017 22:37

Apply for maintenance...

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Bp17 · 08/11/2017 22:42

Thank you but do I have to get the kids living with me first. I did ask him for some help with deposit on a flat and he ignored me but told the kids he's giving me nothing

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ChocoMunchi · 09/11/2017 05:13

The home was bought by his parents before we married so have no real claim on it.

I’m sure this isn’t the case, it’s considered an asset and you are entitled to at least 50 % minimum.

Go and get legal advice straight away, report the abusive incidents to the police and your local DA services.

Bruceishavingfish · 09/11/2017 05:46

You need legal advice. If the homr is in their namr but you paid the mortgage, its not straight forward.

How old are the kids that are moving with you?

namechange2222 · 09/11/2017 06:02

My understanding is that you will jointly own the home. See a solicitor asap. Don't know if maintenance is payable if three children are living with each of you. I imagine it will depend on your incomes

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 09/11/2017 06:05

Go and see a solicitor.

Pretty sure that if you've been married and living in that house then it's a joint asset.

Justoneme · 09/11/2017 06:14

Right go to a solicitor.... I know you haven't got any money now but the solicitor will sort it out!

Go to a good solicitor who deals with dirvoce.... they will ensure you get the money.

Then phone up the child maintenance service; they will give you money for the 3 children.

You husband sounds disgusting ... don't back down.

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NerrSnerr · 09/11/2017 06:35

You need to speak to a solicitor. How old are the children that are living with you?

namechange2222 · 09/11/2017 07:19

Then phone up the child maintenance service; they will give you money for the 3 children.
But in the same breath OP is responsible for financially supporting the children who do not live with her

babybarrister · 09/11/2017 15:00

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Bp17 · 09/11/2017 17:40

Thanks all will need to get a solicitor now I was trying to avoid it but he is leaving me no option. The kids coming with me are 11 15 and 13. The older kids are in their twenties. He is being awful saying nasty things about me to the kids. Awful situation.

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Justoneme · 09/11/2017 19:07

Keep safe x

wannabestressfree · 09/11/2017 19:27

Are you separated from them now? I wouldn’t leave it too long if he is already playing mind games. You may end up with no children with you.

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Bp17 · 11/11/2017 17:36

Thanks everyone. Thank God for mums who has lent me a deposit on a home and I pick up the keys Monday. Need the kids with me and hopefully life can begin again. Let him keep his house and money I can hold my head high and our kids will remember who behaved decently.

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