I know some people don't like it when general questions are asked in this forum, but I'm interested so I'll try my luck...
My DP is having some issues with his ex (they have 2 children that live with her, he has standard access of EOW and once a week), in that she rarely sends him updates on what the children are doing, photos, school info, etc even when he requests it, but as soon as they're with him she demands daily updates on what they're doing, addresses of where they go and who they're with, photos, etc etc etc and becomes really quite abusive when she doesn't get it.
My theory is that the reason she can ask for so much and give so little, is that she fundamentally doesn't see them as having equal roles in their children's lives. I get the impression that she believes that she is their primary caregiver and he is something less.
My question is- how do you view your ex when it comes to your children?