Advice for getting my boy back ( not exs)

[romoca]

My ex hubby ( not divorced yet) wants my son ( not his) to live with him. I know he only wants this too get at me.... He normally bully's the boy. I know he has no legal rights at all over him but when o go to get him do I need to take anything with me or paperwork etc??? Xx

He is your son. You need to not tolerate this situation. Do not allow it to continue

Thanks for all the replies, the abuse was
More emotional than physical but he done the same to my son, social services will be my next port of call as will be the citizens advice. As for picking him up from school I thought this but now ex he will have probably said to them not let me pick him up!!!
See he had told solicitors it was I who was abusive to him!!!!!!!! So absolutely hate to think what he has said!!! His biological dad has been absent from his life for around 5 years!
My ex and I were only a married a year!!!! He didn't adopt him ( thankfully!)

School cannot prevent you collecting, and should prevent him.

Your ex can't tell the school anything if he doesn't have PR.
Speak to the school, tell them they are not to release your son to anyone except you. The school cannot legally release your son to your ex if he does not have PR.

Your ex doesn't have PR. Make sure the school know this. It's easily proved by bringing in his birth certificate. Therefore he HAS NO RIGHTS WHATSOEVER OVER YOUR CHILD. You need to speak urgently to whoever is in charge of safeguarding at your DSs school. Make it clear they are not to disclose anything about your child to ex allow him to collect.

This is a totally seperate issue to whatever your ex may have told the police. Whatever your ex says he has no rights over your child.

• OR allow him to collect.

Go and get your son.

Call the cops to accompany if you are scared of violence. But don't leave him there . It's kidnap. The longer you leave it the harder it will be. Go get the boy NOW.

It doesn't matter if he's said anything or not.
He is your son and he is with an abusive man.

You really need to do something, be it gathering friends/family and going to his house or turning up at school Monday.

Get angry!

You don't need an expensive solicitor. It's the police who can sort this out for you.
Go back to the police, say your ex has no parental rights over him. Collect your son from
School, if ex turns up then call 999

Just to reiterate you don't need to see a solicitor or the CAB. Your ex has no rights here but he's done such a number on you, you're beginning to think he has. The longer you leave your son in his care, the more difficult this will be to sort out.

So exactly what have you done since yesterday morning aside from talking to the police?
How long has your son been there because it sounds a lot longer than a day if you have had a letter from his solicitors..
Why has he involved a solicitor?

My ex and I were only a married a year!!!! He didn't adopt him ( thankfully!)

And he didn't acquire PR either?

Why are you not doing more about this? Get your son.

He can sat what he likes to the school. If he does not have PR his words are meaningless. Go talk to the school on Monday, tell then he is not allowed to pick your son up.

I think it's better to sort it today. Better for your son than there being a big scene/argument/police called in front of his mates/teachers/mates' parents on the school playground tomorrow.

Did you actually explain to the police that your ex does not have PR of your DS? Did you ask the police to get your DS or to just make sure he was OK? I don't understand why you left him behind?

I assume the 22 month old is husband's bio child.

I don't understand how a man with no legal parental rights can stop you having your son. Can you get to the school in the morning at drop off time and speak to your son, that he isn't to leave with your Ex.

Or go to school before school ends and get out of class and take him home.

As long as there is no evidence of your son being at risk with you, the school surely can't stop you.

I'm totally perplexed by this.

Did you go and get him?

What on earth?

Just an update, alas it was not as easy as going to just get him. I went up there with his biological father and my father for support and the police threatened to arrest us!!!!!!! It turns out mil has told lots of lies saying I'm mentally unstable/want to kill myself...... None of which is true!!!! I've been to social services, police, woman's aid spoken to midwife/gp. Tomorrow I am seeing a solicitor. Although I can't really afford it it's gonna break the bank but I'm not eligible for legal aid.

So you left a child with someone that you allege bullies him? You're making half hearted efforts to get him back (or not)? The police are backing the person the child is with? Who allegedly has no right to keep him? There's so much more to this story you're not telling. Poor child.